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Cheating Girlfriend
So last summer I was gone for four months and a lot happened over the summer here at home. But me and this girl were dating for six months before hand and I had to leave for BCT, but before I left we've had plenty and I usually go down on her, so i know a lot about what it's like that there. Anyways, when I return back home she taste different, and smells different and has become loose. I don't really know if loosen has anything to do with sex, I'm pretty sure it starts to tighten back up shortly after sex. But I'm just a little concerned because she was going to the gym while I was gone, so the tightness of her vagina shouldn't have changed right? She also was doing drugs while i was away, which brings me to more worry. She told me about two incidents, both she said she was only given oral by a girl and another time a gay guy that i know gave her oral. Which she hid the gay guy situation from me for a little while. But what i am asking is did she do more or am i just way over thinking, too many rumors have hit my ears and I really just need some help here. I will throw in more details with answers that come.
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Thank you. I titled it cheating girlfriend because she did in fact cheat...i honestly have feeling she hiring more than what has happened. But thanks that advice is pretty spot on
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Whoa there...let's not start assuming anything just because she tastes and smells different or feels tighter or looser. There can be scientific reasons why so I am listing a link to an article on why a vagina can smell different. So if any of the issues written about exist, then they could cause a difference in taste too.
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I do know that diet will change both how mens and womens body fluids taste. Saliva and cum to get to the point have differed greatly for me when with different men in the past. Those who are heavy meat eaters will taste different than those who eat little meat or non. If she has changed her diet, I am guessing a month is enough to change how she tastes, smells. I tend to also change my diet for the seasons and in summer I have more smoothies and fruits and salads and hardly any meat so if the fall/spring diet is different from summer, that could easily affect a person too.
Next, you mention tightness vs. looseness. The vagina of some women not having any sex can slowly shrink to be tighter from non use. If the female knows how to use her muscles, she can contract and tighten the vagina at will. If she has used a dildo while you were gone that was a larger size than you and used it alot, perhaps that stretched her out and made her seem a bit looser. She had 4 months for all these things to change in her while you were gone.
Be careful about accusing her of anything. If 6 months is all you had together before you were gone, it may not have been enough time for you to gain trust in her. It takes differeing amounts of time to gain trust depending on the person. So all this may just be due to your not yet having gained full trust and that is okay but to accuse her of screwing around behind your back when not true, is a very fast way to shut off her emotions for you and possibly cause damage to the relationship, such as her leaving you.
I won't say she did not do something while you were gone and the link does mention how some of the problems can come up by sexual contact. It is entirely possible that perhaps you were the one who passed something on to her, even if you never had symptoms but were a carrier. If you don't believe this, start researching on the web yourself. So unless you have a check up and Drs have a way to screen you for anything that could have been passed to her to cause a condition that produces bad smells, best not to assume she was with someone else.
I am concerned because you titled this 'cheating girlfriend' as if this is something that can be backed up in court with solid facts. It sounds to me as if your mind is already made up that she cheated. It may not be a matter of trust but simply that one of you is the wrong person for the other, as in she's wrong for you or you are wrong for her. If her behavior towards you hasn't changed and she seems to love you as much as before, then I'd say, its likely as is well and that more of what you believe you are feeling, smelling, tasting is only distorted thoughts based on how you feel, meaning mainly, having lack of trust. Tho do keep your eyes and ears open and observe her closely. If she is acting too cool towards you, maybe she's lost interest and is afraid of doing the "break up' conversation. Keep in mind that how you treat her can also make her cool off towards you. I have experience with this in my past. If the man treats the women the same but his mind and emotions are feeling she cheated, she may not know exactly what you're feeling but womens intuition can pick up on that and she may interpret it as you having lost interest in her and not having broken up yet, or wonder if perhaps what she is sensing mean you are hiding something, not being honest and may have cheated on her yourself.
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