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My nephews dad sent him a friend request on facebook!
My mom has been raising my nephew since he was 3 and he is 13 now his dad hasn't been in his life at all. He hasn't bought him anything for birthdays or Christmas. He has never wanted to be involved in his life in any way before then the the other day he sent him a friend request on facebook and told him to call him so my mom let him call him and he said he was coming to see him, but my mom does not know if she should allow visitation or not? Would supervised visitation be okay?
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Your mom should definitely have a conversation with your nephew's dad to discuss his intentions. Thirteen years without contact with a child says a lot about a parent, and unless this man shows a very sincere desire to connect with his son, he should not be allowed visitation. I think once your mom has a feel for the situation, your nephew should be asked what he wants. Your nephew's safety and emotional and physical well-being are most important here. I don't know what kind of man his father is, but even if he's "normal" enough besides completely neglecting his kid, I can tell you from personal experience that this kind of thing can really screw with a kid. And keep in mind that many dads like this may intend to reconnect with their child and then leave when things get too hard or they get whatever they want from the relationship. Maybe the man just feels guilty, and thinks a few days with the kid and some presents will make up for his absence. Or maybe he truly does want to reconnect with the kid. Your mother and potentially you, depending on your family's dynamic, should speak to your nephew's father. I personally believe that no matter what he may say, at first visitation should be supervised. Be careful here.
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