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Confused 19 year old virgin !?
Hi!
I am 19 and just ended freshman year at college. It was a good year but the only down side was guys. I have never been in a relationship but have been thinking about having sex for two years now. I used to want to keep my virginity till marriage but now I have decided to wait until i got in a serious relationship with someone special. The only problem is that I am very sexually frustrated and thinking about my virginity all the time is starting to give me anxiety.
I am in Florida for the summer and thought I should try to experiment sexually. I met a 24 year old guy 2 weeks ago and we've hooked up 3 times so far. Each time I gave him a blow job and he fingered me, that's it.
Last night I was going down on him in his car and he recorded me with his phone but I wasn't paying attention. After he left I got mad about it and I told him I didn't want to continue hooking up with him anymore. He agreed.
My birthday is in two days and I really want to lose my virginity just to get it out of the way but I don't know if I should do it with him or not. He is very attractive and mature but he only wants a friend with benefits and I'll probably never see him after this summer.
I am worried I might be making a mistake though.
What should I do ?
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Losing one’s virginity is a very personal question. I believe you know the answer to your question and are just looking for confirmation.
We all know what it is like to be sexually frustrated especially when we have yet made the decision to lose our virginity. This goes for boys as well as girls. There is nothing wrong using masturbation to stem the sexual frustration. In fact 85% of us masturbate and this includes married couples. Mutual masturbation is part of foreplay.
Losing one’s virginity is different for a guy verses a girl. There is no way to tell if a guy is a virgin or not. Once a girl gives up their virginity there is no going back. She is no longer a virgin once a penis enters her vagina even a fraction of an inch.
I think it is wrong for a girl to give up her virginity just to get rid of it. It is such an intimate act that there should be some romance involved. You don't have to be looking to marry the guy but you should be in some type of relationship with him.
The guy you write of is not someone you want to give your virginity to. For one thing he is not going to appreciate it and will probably not make it special for you, because there is no love between you. You would be just another conquest for him as he is a player.
My advice is to hold on to your virginity a bit longer, until you find someone who will appreciate the gift you are giving him; someone that has feelings for you and will make it special, someone who will do his best to make it as painless as possible for you. In this way your first real sexual experience will be a positive one.
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