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Possible to fall for another person while in relationship??
Hello,
Just wondering is it actually possible to fall for another person while in a relationship for few years?? We're good mates but I can't stop thinking about her. It's crazy. I don't think it's normal! Any thoughts, guys? Cheers!
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Yes it is possible. Happens to people all the time, they just don't talk about stuff like this cus they feel embarrassed and like they are a bad person. Feeling that way is one thing. It only becomes a bad thing is a person begin to date two different people behind each others back while pretending each is the only one for you. If not in a marriage, it is easier to break up a relationship and start a new one. Be very sure of what you are looking for at this point. Are you young enough that right now you want a gf more for company and socially, or are you looking for commitment level like becoming a husband and father. Dating that goes on for years without a move to commit to be together life long or long term would indicate several possible things. One or the other could be afraid of the different responsibilities, or not have any idea of what they really want, are simply living life at the moment, day by day without any goals for the future, etc. It doesn't take lots of years to figure out if the person you are with is the one who will still be by your side when you're old and grey. Depending on the amount of time with a partner, you can discover that in a few months to 6 mo. on the average or perhaps one year at the most. Living together speeds up the process of determining if this person is the one for you as it is impossible to hide anything and all is there for you to see, if you like everything about a person or not. If there are some things you do not like about a gf, don't think your love can change her. If a person has to become someone they are not just to be right for their partner, then the two are not right for each other. I've been there, done that. And it doesn't work. Since then I've read books and psychologists explain why so now I know. You need to make a decision, regardless of the fact you like this female friend. Do you want to stay with the girl friend or not. If you become single again, before you make any moves on the female friend, make sure you know exactly what it is you are looking for. That way, any girl you date after this, will be some one you are checking out to see if she seems to have the characteristics you want in a partner. Do you both have the same goals and dreams, same beliegs, morals, and both wanting or not wanting kids some day? These are things to be thought about now, even if you don't plan to marry in a few years. It is a process though from now till then, with lots of dating and figuring out who best makes the right mate for you and you the right mate for her. I am talking about mates as in marriage, not friends. Good luck!
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