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i don't know what to do...
so basically... i think i fell out of love with the guy (lets call him A) ive been dating for awhile. i don't rlly say i love you, and since we are in school together, i try to avoid him because i dont want to go public.
so a few days back, he told me that he thinks i dont like him anymore, bc i rarely say ily and i dont want to be near him at skl, and he said "correct me if im wrong" that made me think, do i really like him? and since then ive ignored him, it has been like 3 days, but during these 3 days, he still messaged me and said he loves me and such, but i still didnt reply. i didnt reply because i dont know what to do, i think that i dont like him anymore, but im not entirely sure, i dont want make a huge mistake. but i think that i want to break up, because i know that i think i dont like him anymore?? i stil want to stay friends cuz overall, hes like a really good guy, sweet and stuff. i know that if i say that i wanted to breakup, he would ask for a reason which i dont have one. the feelings are just gone. i just dont want to date him, i want to be friends.
i know that i might seem to be a player, but i am truly not, i mean hes my first love so why would i? i just dont know how to say that i want to be just friends, because i know that its either all or nothing
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When we are young and in school, relationships, dating and love are all a learning experience. I understand you not knowing what to say to him if not interested anymore so it is good you wrote in.
Basically to avoid and not say a thing to him comes across to him as rude and immature. Well, it would come across that way to anyone you did that too, even though its not your intent.
Feelings change quickly at your age. Dating is actually a time when you learn more about the other person to decide if you still like them enough to want to continue to date and become exclusive, committed. At a young age, its not even about that yet, just getting used to what the other sex is like because boys and girls are quite different in how they think, explain, and such.
Think of what he must feel like. Its quite easy. Lets say you were in love with a guy and he fell out of love with you and just stopped talking and started avoiding you without explanation. Wouldn't you be hurt. Sure it hurts to have someone break up with you but it also hurts to be avoided without explanation.
Just approach him where there are no people around to listen in. He won't want an audience to witness this. Tell him that you have been avoiding him because you had no idea how to go about telling him something important. You realize now that it was unfair not to say anything and you need for him to know that your feelings have changed. You do not feel the same as you once did and that he did not do anything wrong. You just simply do not feel that needed chemistry to be a couple. So you are letting him go.
Hon, there is no easy way to tell someone you are breaking up, but it is the right thing so that he knows for sure, can do his grieving and when ready start dating again.
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it sounds like your heart has already made up its mind. Now your brain is just catching up.
You have got to break up with him.
And you can NOT be friends with him, that would be cruel. He has already fallen in love with you and no matter what he may say he will not be OK with just being friends.
Emotions suck but that is how it is.
Do the right thing and let him go.
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