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I think he's trying to say something?
Hello xenolan, we've known for couple of months and become good friends. Always joking and sharing stories, helping with stuff however the other day, out of blue he says, I will be your best friend if you want me to be, the thing is we're already friends and why would he want to be a best friend? He says he will help me with things if I need one coz I'm a friend of his, he says. More importantly, he keeps pointing out we're friends and I'm his friend. He also says we will always be friends. I feel like he fancies me because I fancy him as well, teases me lot to see my reaction over teasing remarks unluckily we both have a boy/girlfriend. I can't dare to ask him straight what's he thinking? Thank you very much!
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
Here's the thing... he may be saying that he wants a degree of exclusiveness with you that precludes a romantic relationship, OR he might be saying very definitively that the only relationship you'll ever have is to be friends.
If you ever want to find out, then you'll need to ask. But you can do so in a subtle way that doesn't reveal all your feelings up front. Something like, "You said the other day that we could consider each other to be 'best friends'... I guess I'm just wondering, have you ever thought there might be something more than that between you and me?" It's going to be a scary thing, putting yourself out there like that, but without risk there is no reward! (And trust me on this one - not saying anything could result in a very, very long regret.)
Yes, you do each have a significant other right now. But having a boyfriend/girlfriend doesn't mean you're married; you CAN consider other possibilities. That's why people date other people instead of getting engaged to someone right away.
I'm going to have to give people names here, so let's say your boyfriend is Brad and the guy you fancy is Steve. You can talk to Steve just once about the possibility of a relationship without being untrue to Brad. If the result of that conversation is that you want to explore those possibilities, that's when you would have to break the bad news to Brad (and of course, Steve would have to do the same with his girlfriend). There will undoubtedly be hurt feelings, but that's part of life, and ultimately Brad should understand that you need to follow your heart.
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