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mythejane99
Hi :) , i gave him a "valentine message" telling him that i never should've told him about my feelings for him , and asking him why he doesnt.talk to me...he then spoke to me and told me that its good that i told him about my feelings and he also told me that the reason he doesnt speak to so much than to other girls is that that he know other girls better than me and that he has more lessons with them than with me...also yesterday at school , i met him at the lockers before the school started and it was less awkward...but even after we talked it still hurts me so much., i want to get over him.so badly but i cant, not only he's good-looking, but i cant be mad at him bc he's so good as a person, i never wanted to fall in love with him,i dont want to have feelings for him, i just want to be friend with him, but maybe he doesnt :/ ....and about my friend Diana , i asked her if she wanted to go out and she said she would think it through and then let me know and she never did :/ i dont know if caroline and diana are my true friends ...i want to go out on friday, but im embarrassed to always ask them to hang out with me, i feel like im annoying,even when i ask my best friend to hang out and she always says she's busy.. why nobody wants to go out with me ? ...nobody has asked to hang out, its always me who asks someone to hang out,also no one ever texted me first to ask me.how i am...im sorry , i sound like a total loser :/
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You don't sound like a loser at all. Our friends often genuinely are busy. Suggest hanging-out whenever you want, and don't take a 'not tonight' result as a personal insult or proof that you are annoying and/or ugly, not likeable etc etc....When you are together be good company, and enjoy yourself. I really do appreciate how you feel about this guy. Loving someone who just does not feel this strongly back is basically, shit. There's nothing good about about, it does hurt. A lot. At least he is being decent and adult about it. His rejection is damaging you though. It is eating away at your self-confidence. Quite a lot of the time in life we have to learn to take knock-backs and pick ourselves up again and carry on. It's not easy, but we have to. When you write I always think what a thoughtful, caring and decent person you sound. Don't let this 'harden' you too much. These are beautiful qualities in a person and great things to bring to a relationship. When you share them with someone who DOES feel the same about you, then guess what? It won't feel just 'ok' or 'nearly as good' as how you imagine things would be with this guy. It will feel much, much BETTER. I guarantee it. We cannot replace a 'something' with a 'nothing' however. Waiting for the hurt to heal might be a long wait. Best to start moving-on. Start right now. I recall you have a move to university life coming up soon? How about drawing a line under all that's happened here. You've learned some stuff, about life, about feelings, about yourself. There are positives in there. Some useful things to take forward. Some things and people to leave in the past. This is a great opportunity to draw that line. A real physical 'change' of your life. You'll live and love again. You'll be happy again. Sometimes you'll be hurt again. Sometimes you'll laugh. Sometimes you'll cry. Good days. Bad days. None of us can take just the good parts. Take only the things we want. That's LIVING and you're doing OK at life mate. I assure you. XX
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