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What is he saying?
Hi, what does he mean when he says, I'm a loving friend to you?' we're a good friends. I told him on a joke, 'someday you will make a loving father and a loving husband to someone. And he replied, how about a loving friend, I'm a loving friend to you, aren't I and he smiled and looked at me with long eye contact. I mean we kid around tons. We go to a same university and we do flirt back and forth but I certainly do not have a courage to ask what he really means. Is he saying he loves me? Thank you!
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Can't say if this is his way of flirting, or trying to say he loves you. The only way to really know is to ask point blank and since you are afraid to ask, you just will have to continue to wonder.
He dodged your comment about husband and father and I can only guess why. Perhaps he is not one to look too far into the future or have even half formed plans for his future. He may be one to just live in the here and now and enjoy. This could possibly mean that he is also not ready to be a serious boyfriend to a gal and not wanting to make a commitment like that. That's okay because you can still find out alot about him by just being friends. He also may be more focused on completing his studies and degree and believes he can not juggle both a serious relationship and school. Those are all guesses.
As to why he feels he has to tell you that he is your friend, who knows. All I know is that through out my life, I have never had a friend who told me, "I am your friend" or I am a good friend or we are good friends. One would already know that by their interactions and how they treat you.
Since you don't want to ask what he means, just enjoy the friendship. A man who eventually gets serious about settling down and finding that gal he can fall in love with, it's a good start to look at the people you are already good friends with as that is part of what makes a solid foundation to a lasting happy love relationship.
For the future, here's an article on how to know if a guy really loves you. A guy did a video for women and I paraphrased what he wrote and added to it some examples. Hope you find this eye opening.
DOES HE LOVE YOU
Either he's doing a bad job of showing it to you or you are doing a bad job of picking up on the signals.
Why some relationships aren't working in a nut shell:
Some women give their love and devotion to a guy who doesn't deserve it, who is wrong for her
while others no matter how plain and simple the signs are of his love and devotion, they don't see it or trust it because of lack of self confidence.
1 A woman's insecurity and neediness will kill a man's love
Do you love me, do you love me? No matter what he says or does, she never believes him, even if he's never done anything to earn her distrust.
2 It's impossible to love others and be loved by others unless you love yourself first.
Don't look to a man for all your self esteem and self worth. Have it already before relationship..
3. Men do not show love the same way women do. For them it's how they feel when she is around and how she fulfills the dreams of the woman he's wanted and how possessive he feels if another man was paying too much attention to her. Some women tranlate love into his obsession for her and devotion while men translate her love for him as being appreciated and respected.
7 Questions to know if he really loves you
1. Does he say I love you. For some, it's a hard thing to say but they show it to you in other ways. When he says “I love youâ€, he is viewing that as a commitment to you. It is not a flippant phrase.
Saying I love you too early like during first couple dates is a warning about the guy. Its a very good chance he is needy and wanting a woman to be his mom. Other phrases from a guy count too, like you're awesome, I adore you. You're the woman I always dreamed of.
2. Does he make you a priority in his life? Guys have more than one priority...things very important to him but you should be one of top 3.
What he does for you or how he acts can't be faked easily because it's hard to lie with your body. Things he does without having to be asked, making dinner, picking up something for a collection you have, making time for you, even if it's a walk or a long phone chat. If the guy likes you, he'll make time for you at least a quarter of the time.
3 Does he tell friends about you and like to show you off? Have you been introduced to his family and friends? If he keeps you separate, he's hiding something or ashamed or fearful of something
4. Does he care about your pleasure during sex? Is he only into seeking his own pleasure or your's too. Does he open his eyes and want to have both your eyes connect while making love?
5. Does he respect and encourage you? Respect means, does he value your opinion, do you share decisions and treats you as a partner. Are you encouraged by him to have your own friends and hobbies outside the relationship and encourage you to seek your dreams and uphold you in that.
Jealousy is not love, it's control. It's okay to be protective, but jealousy shouldn't be what prompts the protectiveness
6. Do your friends and family like how he treats you? Others make a great gauge for judging a guys character.
7. Does he look at you with lust and passion in his eyes, with a hunger and thirst for you? Does he give you admiring looks, does he still want to sneak peeks down your shirt. What he sees is Very important since guys are visually stimulated. If he isn't looking anymore, he has lost his interest. All men because of this natural trait, will also view other women but do so discreetly, without being an ass about it. Don't expect a man to look at only you. If he doesn't look at other women at all, it may be a sign that he is gay. You do want a man who is visually stimulated by women.
How many points are true for you with your guy?
7 true He treats you as a Queen and he is an exceptional man
5-6 true He loves you. Just don't focus on what is lacking.
3-4 true He loves you enough to make the relationship work for him. If it's enough for you, then be content. If you feel like you're settling for less, let him go and look for something better.
1-2 true He's a douche-bag, a user or controller. Leave immediately.
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