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He likes talking to me, he says?!
Hello, just wondering, why does he say, 'i like talking to you?' we do chat when we see each other as he's a mate. He also says you're my friend in a reassuring tone at least twice when we're having a chat and I say yeah yeah, I know that. Is he after something or is it just a mate thing? I've started to fancy him a little so could I please get a straight answer? Thanks.
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I like talking to you-- is a very straightforward phrase. There can not be any hidden meaning there.
Lets switch roles here and you are telling someone that you like talking to them. Think hard now....what exactly would it be that makes you like talking with someone? I am sure you can figure it out. But just to help, I will list a couple things.
They don't speak in a monotone voice
You don't have to drag responses out of them
and conversation flows easily.
They can speak on a big variety of topics so its not restricted to just work, school stuff or girly stuff or male interests.
The person doesn't hog the convo and allows you to talk also.
The person is a good story teller.
They have a great sense of humor which makes them interesting to listen to with lots to make you laugh.
I could probably go on but those are common reasons.
So it is very likely that he finds many of these if not all, to be true of you.
If your girlfriends never said "I like talking to you" its because they are female talking to a female and females tend to talk about certain subjects. Its highly unlikely they'd be conversing about working on cars or restoring them for example. Lots of males may find females lacking in being able to talk about a variety of things. Or they might have to suffer hearing about the latest cute outfit, the nail design you want to try on your nails, or the latest chick flick you enjoyed. They won't require you to know know alot about some of their favorite topics like skateboarding and skate parks if you aren't into it. But it is a plus if you are truly wanting them to share what it is like for them, giving attention and making comments that show you are really listening.
Now about saying he's your friend, thats good cus the other option would be 'your enemy' or a guy who can't stand you or hates you. Females tend to look for double meanings or hidden meaning in everything a guy says. Unless he's gay and happens to have this female attribute of how females hold conversation and decipher convo's, males don't try to speak with double or hidden meanings. Males can enjoy the friendship of a female without being in love. Some may never fall in love. However being good friends is the best place to start and creates a good foundation for two people who may slowly move from friendship to romance and love.
As to why he keeps repeating that you are his friend, it could be that your response makes him feel you don't believe him, therefore he keeps trying to reassure you of this. He might be waiting for something more than "Yeah, yeah".
If your comment is given with an indifferent sounding voice, he might also wonder if you are just tolerating him and don't really care to have him as a friend. Either you are glad that he is your friend or not. If you are glad, tell him so. Maybe compliment him on some things that you appreciate about his friendship. Everyone wants to be liked and appreciated, you too. So now again, switch roles and think if you told a guy that he is your friend and he just grunts in rsponse, or only smiles a weak smile or says, Uh huh, you wouldn't think he was taking it that seriously and that maybe he really doesnt care one way or the other. Realize that females will think and reason things out way differently than males. They are pretty simple whereas females tend to be complicated in thinking and reasoning. Do not ever try to use what you know as a female to try to understand a male or analyze him. The best way to learn exactly what he means is to ask for clarification. I get lots of gals writing asking what their guy meant and I always tell them, its not as complicated as you may think. Just ask him. Hope this helps you dear.
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