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A guy mate says, 'i like you too much?'
Hello there, we've been friends for a while. we kid around. I don't flirt with him but I think he flirts with quite a lot sarcastically more likely he's teases me tons by saying, oh, look at those moody grumpy eyes and he laughs slightly afterwards. he asked me to do few tasks but I kept forgetting and I said, ''next time you remind me just hit me in the head, ok' and he laughed and said (mentions my name) NO, I like you too much to hit you on your head.'' what does he mean? does he likes me or just goofing around?? we have a lot of eye contact but we both are never shy well he's not, we just carry on chatting but more likely he does teases me over tiny stuff and I just say,'you're horrible' and he just sits there and smiles looking at me. If possible Men point of view please but all answers are appreciated. Many thanks!
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It's hard to know what another person means by the words they choose to communicate by unless you are a mind reader. The next best thing is to study and learn about body language. There are many you tube videos that I've seen that show what people do when interested as more than friends, what females specifically do and what males do. you may want to study up on that so in case you see positive signs, you will feel more comfortable taking the next step.
The question here is whether you have any romantic hopes or interests in him. If not, just enjoy the friendship and don't question it. If you are interested that way, then next time either paraphrase him or ask what he meant.
Paraphrasing is a good way to go. All you do is to say for example using what he said here:
Him: "No I like you too much to hit you on your head."
You: When you said that, did you mean that if you liked me any less, that you would hit me? And did you mean that you may have interest in me as more than friends and wouldn't dare hit me for fear of making me upset or angry at you?
Just put into words exactly how the words hit you, so the other person can confirm or explain or say no.
There is flirting and there is body language. In many cases, you can't rely on flirting because some of the more outgoing, extroverts are like that with everyone, its just part of their personality. I talk with my hands for instance and often will touch a persons shoulder or arm or give a pat on the back when complimenting, etc. and I have to watch carefully the expressions on the face if it happens to be a male so if it looks like he is questioning my gesture, I can explain I am not hitting up on him, its just how I am with everyone. If you have observed him never doing his brand of flirting with anyone else when in a group, then perhaps it does mean something. But the only way to be sure if to have a heart to heart chat about the subject. What does not lie is a persons body language and facial expressions. For example, a person can tell you something they think you want to hear but be lying through their teeth and the only way to know if it was true or not is where their eyes were focused when answering as in looking up to left, right or looking down to the left or the right. All of this information can be found on the web but I enjoy most the visuals to watch and learn in you tube videos. If you decide to do this research, and can't find what you want, let me know and I will look for some examples for you.
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