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She Thinks She Doesn't Love Me !
so i'm in a long distance relationship from couple of months everything was going good until a little problem started in her life
and now the problem is almost over but she thinks that she doesn't love me anymore
she wanted to marry and have kids with me that's how much she loved me and now she think's that she doesn't love me because when i move to her country it will be the first time that we both are gonna meet and she thinks that she won't be able to love with me
she says that she wants to be alone and doesn't wanna worry about a boyfriend who she has to think about and text....
i think that she's watching too many American Movies about love xD
but it really hurts me to hear her say all these....
i ask her if she doesn't love me anymore she doesn't reply to it...
she loves me but she is always thinking about things that's gonna cause a problem in our love and this constant thinking of her's has led us to breakup
she didn't even talk to me for a couple of weeks...she said that she was thinking but now i see all she was thinking was negative...
love is something that we can't get easily..
we have to fight for our love...
that's what i believe
but she is failing to understand that point
and i'm trying to explain all this to her...
i'm asking her to look at the bright side but she just doesn't get the point....
i really don't know what to do and i'm trying so hard to save our love
i don't wanna give up so easily
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Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
LDR's, long distance relationships, are not the best way to date a person and fall in love. The internet is a good tool to use in finding a person, coming to know of their existance and if they sound interesting, then taking the step to meet in the real world as soon as possible, in a week or two, or a month at the longest.
I used dating sites on the internet which involves then chatting via the internet daily or often with the other person. I found that even if it was only a week, my mind began to fill in the blanks, the spacdes of things I did not know and too often, using the impression they gave by their words mixed with a lot of my imaginings did not in the end measure up when we met in person, usually at a safe public location like a coffee shop.
I had high hopes on a couple guys but when we met in person, the chemistry was not there, and either one or both of us did not feel the romantic attraction and chemistry needed to make the relationship ever work. Also, in the beginning, people tend to want to impress and so will often try to cover up their flaws and pretend to be something better than they are. For example, it is easy to hide the fact that one is a messy house keeper if your date has never seen your place. I know of several people who said they were told one thing but found out in the end they were lied to once they finally met in person. SO another bad thing is that it is hard or almost impossible to learn to trust the other person without being there in person to really observe them or check out if what they say about themselves is really true.
So I find it natural that she may want to marry and have kids but not be 100% sure that the person she wants to do that with is you.
SO my advice is to meet in person several times and if you both are still interested in spending time together and growing your relationship to a more solid love, then either stick with local people, OR, if you choose to use the internet, then try to put a high priority on interacting only with those who live close enough for it to be reasonable for you or her to meet in person and visit each other.
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