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Why does a guy friend suggest for a meal?
Hi there, just wondering if the guy friend says, 'you need to take me out for a meal in that restaurant coz that's my favourite place' he says with smile, and I told him ok, may be, one day I might. Also, he says, 'u wouldn't have met me if you didn't come work with us and laughs, like a nervous laugh' Now, does he mean something? Why is he suggesting that? We do joke now and then. I do feel he fancies me, not entirely sure. He sings and hums using my name. Calls me with my shortened name. So please guys, any advice at all? What exactly is he implying? Thank u all!
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He's showing all the signs of being into you and nervous about it. How you respond depends on how you feel about him. He's probably looking desperately for any indication that you feel some attraction to him as well, so be aware that if you start flirting back, you'll be getting his hopes seriously up. In other words, you'll want to respond positively only if you really are interested in the possibility of a more-than-friends situation.
If you're NOT interested in that, then at some point you're probably going to have to let him down. It'll suck, but better to do it sooner instead of later.
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Be brave girl...and just ask him questions or make some kind of statements that might in a round about way get you some answers.
I don't mean to ask point blank "Do you like me" as you may not get a truthful answer no matter if he does or doesn't. Guys panic when they think saying No, means you might cry and that freaks out lots of guys. Or if he does like you, he may be too embarrassed to confess on the spot.
Here's how I would have spoken if a guy said the same things to me.
Him: You need to take me out for a meal in that restaurant...."
Me: Really, that's your favorite place? I have a favorite place too, but its not that place, not that I wouldn't mind going there.
(This is the perfect thing to say to see if he really cares about you because if you don't mention what your favorite place is, he should want to know to at least learn something more about you if not to be able to take you out there some day. So if he doesn't ask, He's not all that serious or if he is, he's gonna need a heck of a lot of training from you or some other female to become a great candidate for boyfriend.
This is not a stranger talking to you and saying these things, he is already a friend and you should be able to ask a friend what they mean by what they said, however you may feel more comfortable taking this route I mentioned.
Him: You wouldn't have met me if you didn't come work with us.
Me: Well that is stating the obvious. I also wouldn't have met all my other co-workers. So what are you trying to say because if I decided to state the obvious with you, I could say "You are wearing a black shirt and blue jeans today." (or whatever he was wearing at the time of his comment) and that kind of talk doesn't make for interesting conversation. Come on, we're friends, right? So you can really say anything to me unless you don't trust me with your innermost thoughts."
I can't say what he is implying if anything. He may not actually be a close friend but just a friendly aquaintance at work and if so, there certainly won't be the kind of trust as good friends would have. If this is someone you only know at work but haven't spent time with away from work, he may just be teasing, or flirting for fun but not for serious intentions and unlike with closer friends, you two wouldn't have had spent enough time hanging out to learn to trust each other. I think if you like him as a coworker but don't like the idea of him as a boyfriend, then don't ask and encourage his advances.
If you really like him and would like to date to get to know him better, then forget asking him anything or even learning what he meant, just ask him out on a date but say you are going 'dutch' as just friends, because you aren't dating each other. That way you don't end up having to pay for his dinner. A real gentleman would offer to pay for their dates meal, not the other way around, but maybe thats what the younger guys are like these days, not gentlemen. I come from another era and even there, you had to search hard for gentlemen but at least they did exist.
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