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Can one disvirgin by fingering herself
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That is a good question. Thanks for asking. Heres the truth first of how the concept of Virgin came about. Long ago before modern contraception or paternity tests, men wanted to be sure that any female they married was not already pregnant from a lover, not wanting a child who wasn't his blood to have as an heir someday. So men came up with the concept and sold it to women, that they must not have sex before marriage, that they must remain virgin. The word virgin fit because it actually means untouched as in a virgin forest being a forest where no humans have ever set foot before. So a virgin was a female who had never been with a man. It has nothing to do with a females hymen but men still feared being tricked and so they said a woman had to bleed from the first time he entered her and there had to be proof of drops of blood on the bed sheets. This is an old fashioned concept dear. Virgin now a days only means that a penis has not been in her vagina. But becoming sexual and doing anything sexual is not a one incident or one night thing where a man must enter the female with penis. It is actually a series of things, from learning more about her cycle, her own anatomy, exploring herself, satisfying herself with masturbation, toys, and eventually on finding a love partner, learning slowly step by step all about what the other person likes and responds to. There isn't a one time place of becoming a sex expert from experience and then just doing the exact same thing with others. It won't work as all people are different. I've had enough partners in life to know this is true, you have to learn all over with each new partner what works with them and teach them what to do for you cus if they are relying on what their last girlfriend liked, chances are some of it won't work for you. So communication is important. Think now about same sex couples. If a person knew they were gay and never had heterosexual sex, and if penis in vagina is the only way to lose virginity, then at what point does a gay person lose their virginity. I hope you see I am not pulling your leg here, that you really don't lose anything but gain lots of sexual experience bit by bit.
Some women have more elastic hymens and some don't. Hymens don't really need to tear and bleed. Think about it. Women birth children who leave through the birth canal which is none other than her cervix and vagina. So if a baby can pass through and everything stretch and not rip and bleed, then theres no reason for hymens to tear from a mans penis. He needs to give her orgasms and get her body ready and well lubricated and ready for him and then he needs to enter very slowly, just a fraction of an inch at a time and then stay motionless and wait for the lady to tell him when she has adjusted to the tight feeling and then he moved a tiny bit more and they repeat this process giving her body a chance to slowly adjust bit by bit. The men who just ram themselves in will rip the delicate tissue. and during sex, ones natural lubricant can disappear and the couple need to use a store bought lubricant made for sex. Use of ones fingers or even his fingers can't break a hymen, use of tampons don't tend to break hymens either. Maybe a big dildo or massager might but then the girl has control of it and only she can be rough on herself. A sharp edge or calloused sharp rough skin on her or his fingers can nick and maybe produce a drop or so of blood but heals fine on its own. This can accidently happen throughout your sexual life. So if the term virgin to you mean not having had penis in vagina sex, then you can call your self a virgin. But it is much better to be frank and talk with the guy when both of you are feeling sexual attraction. Have a good talk before you decide on a time to have sex the first time. Talk with include whether use only of condoms or being safer and waiting til she has been on birth control long enough for it to be affective. You don't need the worry of thinking you are pregnant any time your period is late due to stress at school or work or having been recently sick. I hope this gives you more than enough info to feel a bit more educated about sex and virginity. There is much more to learn and anything else you want to know, I'd be glad to help steer you in the right directions. I would suggest you doing the research, getting books at library or bookstore on learning more about the basics, even on ways a woman can get pregnant without the man entering her, as this is how accidental pregnancies occur, info on options for period products besides the basic pad and tampon, how your anatomy works, how a guys does, knowing that women also ejaculate, and learn about orgasms, clitoral, G spot and A spot, the 3 types for females, etc. If you want some help, there are a few videos and such on you tube that I do sent links to. So let me know if you want links for any and on what actual subjects.
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