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Why was he allowed to live behind me?
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I was molested by my dad when i was 3 in 1991 .my mom pressed charges against him . The court gave him 1 night in jail and got 10year probation plus my mom divorced him and was only allowed supervises visitation but my question is that when I was little my granny let him live in the house that she owned right behind me.why did law enforcement allow this when there is a sex offender law ?
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They might not have known about it. If he and your grandmother were both careful about it, they could have hidden the fact he was living there from police and/or caseworkers. It's also possible that as part of a plea deal, he did not have to register as a sex offender; for instance, it might have been difficult to prove in court that he was guilty, so the prosecution made a deal rather than risk having him get off scot free.
The real question is why your grandmother would allow such a thing. I'm guessing she is your father's mother, and she probably preferred to believe that he was innocent rather than face a horrible truth that she couldn't handle. It is unfortunate that she held her illusions in higher regard than your safety, but that's what people will do sometimes.
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Different states have different laws regarding sex offenders as to where they can live and as to whether or not the need to register as a sex offender. Registering as a sex offender is a relatively new requirement imposed on sex offenders after release from prison or if put on probation.
Not knowing where you live or lived at the time your dad molested you. I cannot say or do any research to see when certain laws which may have given you more protection were instituted. This information is easy enough to obtain if you desire to get it by going to the local Circuit Court or District Attorney's office and asking for the information.
If you find that was a violation of law there may be remedy at law that you could get by discussing this with an assistant District Attorney.
I am so sorry this happened to you, no one at any age should suffer what you have. I would like to make sure that you have dealt with this properly and can move on with this properly. If you have not had therapy for this I suggest you find a qualified psychologist to talk with. If you did have some type of therapy when this happened I would suggest you have some more as this letter tells me you have not put this behind you and moved on.
I'm not saying you will ever forget what happened, which is a mistake many parents make when something like this happens to someone as young as you were. Parents feel you will eventually forget, not true. It just sits in the back of your mind and can ruin your life and marriage at some later date.
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