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mythejane99
Hi :) its me again, its same as always :/, my friend(she's not my class,nobody in my class know i like.him, except for him) adviced to tell him everything how i feel,that im not okay, to get it all of my chest, do you think i should tell him , maybe i would, but probably i wont, bc i feel so ashamed, and awkward that i told how i feel about him bc one of my friends that two years ago he confessed to one of my classmate that he likes her, but she rejected him, but i think he still likes her..and knowing that it hurts even more...i've never should've told him anything !!! , he would talked to me ,not like now he just passes by me and say nothing, during breaks he sometimes randomly goes and talk to girls in class , even when im sitting with my friend, he is talking with her, he doesnt say a word to me, not even looks at me :/ why??...im just so mad at him for it , i ruined our friendship :((, i would also say to one of my friends in class but i would feel vunerable
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Hi there. It sounds like things are getting pretty complicated regarding this guy and it is causing you a lot of unhappiness and anxiety? That is not a good thing. I do not suppose you will want to hear that he is not the only guy on earth, but really he is not. None of us are. It might be time to just tell him how much you would like to try being in a relationship? I appreciate that you are horrified at doing this. You just have to steel yourself for it and do it. Like the poet said (more or less!) 'to keep on suffering our misfortunes in silence, or to take arms against a sea of troubles and put and end to them?'. It will indeed put an end to your troubles, one way or the other Let us hope in the good way. A good means of damage-limitation is to keep the conversation as light and 'matter-of-fact' as you possibly can. Keep things like..."I think you're pretty cool. I quite fancy you actually. What do you say we hang out together and see how it goes?" If he declines the invitation, just give him a "It's your loss" type of comment and just walk away. The thing is, you CAN walk away from an exchange of words like this with your dignity intact. Telling him how much you adore him, your life is awful without him and you do not want to live without him etc is something different. It is very difficult to deliver words like this and keep any dignity if he says no. As you may imagine! As far as feeling ashamed, I promise you that you have nothing to feel ashamed about whatsoever here. Hey! It isn't a crime or a sin, or an outrage against his person to fancy him. My goodness, NOBODY is that special mate! He cannot make you feel ashamed, or unhappy. Only you can do that. To yourself. It is maybe time to take arms against this particular 'sea of troubles', do you agree?
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