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mythejane99
Hi 🙂...You know how i told you that last year our teacher gave everyone one of our classmate's name, and we should talk to this person more and help this person etc and he gave me HIM, so now we exchanged some gifts between each other, something like secret santa , so in the morning i came to the classroom, i was talking to my friend and HE came to me and HE gave me some gift, so teacher must've chosen HIM as my secret santa 😟 why ???...Is it just a coincidence ?....Btw how can stop having feelings for him and fall in love with someone else ? and sorry if im bothering you
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Hi! Don't worry, you aren't bothering me at all. It's nice to talk. It is hard to say. It might be a coincidence. But teachers are very tuned-in to what happens in their class and this teacher obviously likes using these friendship/outreach/empathy building type exercises. It could be he noticed you two seemed to work in the last one? I'm guessing really, it is impossible to say for certain either way. But it has added to, and not taken away from your awareness of each other, which can't be bad! Regarding instantly stopping your feelings, that really is impossible! They are not things we can turn-on and turn-off at will like a light bulb. You might get together and find things really click. Would be great if you did. You might get together and find they do not, and then the feelings will stop, because you have been there, tried it, but it's not really what/who you expected. Falling in love with someone else will stop them dead. You will not even give him a thought when you are around the new guy. But we cannot arrange a dreamy guy to come and sweep you off your feet on demand! Sometimes the feelings just die off slowly, if there are no new experiences and/or contact to feed them. You do not notice it, and you do not wake up one morning thinking "Hey! I'm over my feelings for him!" It is a gradual thing, over time. How about you do not try to stop loving this guy? You take every opportunity to attract and interest him as and when it comes along, of course. But you do not dwell on it if they do not arise. And do not break your heart if he is not the one. Most of all, keep your mind (and eyes!) open to others. If a great guy shows up and things just seem to drop into place, and things look promising, definitely DO NOT let your feelings for the first guy hold you back. Give the new guy all your attention and affection. If he deserves it, naturally! You sound a loving and very considerate/thoughtful person in your questions. That is something very special to bring to a relationship so do not waste it on somebody who does not deserve it. Meaning, somebody who does not deserve YOU! Happy Xmas by they way.
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