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Friends first..
I'm 27 years old, and have a complicated personality which sometimes i don't even understand myself ,and i'm tired of doing the same mistakes over and over ..
Since my divorce which been three years i've been in a relationship once and it only last three month, and till now i'm still under the spell of it ,it was the first time i experienced such feelings and couldn't heal completely because i felt the pain in a different way that i can't even describe ,it's been almost a year now and i began to accept it ,accept the reality and move on .
There is this guy one of my closest friends that is my ex's friend at the same time, he's really a nice guy and really a good friend you could ask for ,he helped me a lot in my problems with my ex and whenever we had a fight he was the one who patch things up .After we broke up after some time he started to act differently ,everything was different he changed and one day he confessed he was in love with me from the beginning but he had some self confidence issues and couldn't bare it anymore so he let everything out and i didn't say anything i was in shock because lately he was the only one that i could talk to and he was really a good friend i didn't expect it.
so after a while i started to feel something that maybe if i try i could be with him and i started to look at him differently ,i saw how he can be the perfect partner,lover,brother and father..and i thought to make a move and i did .
I was with my friends drinking so instead of going home i went to him,we talked laughed and suddenly i kissed him without even thinking and he was shocked obviously ,the day after he started to act like i was his girlfriend and started to stress me and i told him to stop it was my mistake and now i want some time i don't know what happened maybe it was because of the pressure i acted like that,,anyway after a week i missed him i went to him we talked and i did the biggest mistake ever i slept with him,and now i feel there's no coming back and its been 4 days we're in a relationship of course he's gonna think like that c'mon i slept with him ,i don't love him i understood that ,he's an amazing friend but i don't love him,after that kiss and then me wanting to end things made him think that i was playing with his feelings imagine what he would say now,,,i can't even imagine ,that's why i'm just going with it ,''maybe after some time i could love him'' that's the only thing that im thinking when im alone with myself ,am i acting or thinking stupid just help me out please,,i can't lose him as a friend and i don't want to sabotage my image in front of him because im important to him i know i made a mistake but my head was really confused.. :/
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The quickest way to lose a friend is to be in a relationship with them and then to sleep with them. You are now at that point and it is a terrible place to be.
The quickest way to send him a message is to tell him you do love him but like a brother and it was wrong to have sex with him. It is also the worst thing a woman can tell a guy that is in love with her because you will hurt him to the quick especially after you have engaged in sex with him.
Essentially that is what you are going to have to say to him, that you value him more for his friendship than you do for a lover and possible husband. That sleeping with him was a mistake or you can leave that part out and say that it might be possible to be friends with benefits. something I would not suggest this though it is something you might want to think about.
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