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Daughter not settling after move
So let's start with I have three kids my oldest daughter is 12 my son is 10 and my younger daughter is 3. In June we moved so me and my husband relocated about 5 hours away from our old home for job purposes. In August the older kids started school. Ever since my son has talked about new friends and clubs and classes. But my daughter on the other had is now very boxed in and unlike our own home has had no sleepovers or friends over. I thought this was just her starting to block me out as a teen but the other night she came and cried to me about not having friends and wanting to move again. She is a very nice girl and I'm now regretting the move. It seems her old friends have blocked her out too. PLEASE HELPðŸ˜
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This is a problem of teenagers and middle school all over. By the time girls more than boys reach middle school they have developed their inner circle of friends or clicks if you wish. They are very protective of these circles and outsiders are not easily welcomed.
As wrong as it sounds and is in order to gain access to any of the popular groups she has to bring something to their group the either need or want. I truly don't support this action as it only affirms in the others how they can dictate the actions of others.
My best suggestion is for your family to join the religious organization of your choice and have your daughter get active in their programs for teens a girls. You can also look to your local parks and recreation for programs for teenagers and teenage girls. Many of these programs are group participation type programs that require the groups to interact and work together in teams. From teamwork friendships can be built.
Most importantly though you must get her to realize it is not her. It is the others and she is the new kid and it will take time but she will make friends. It all starts with one friend and builds from their.
Also very important for a teenage girl is to have the in style cloths to wear to school. If your budget can afford it make sure she has a couple of stylish outfits for school. Designer labels are what counts.
As for her old friends unfortunately she is gone and out of sight. They have moved on without her.
Pamper her a bit to make up for the hurt but do not spoil her.
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