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should i be friend with him or not ??
im girl 17,i told my classmate(boy) who is also my crush in the concrete i gave him a note, saying i like him..two days later, i asked him to talk about it bc he didnt give any respond and i wanted to how he feels ,during school,i asked him if we could go and talk somewhere private , he said it is nice that i told him about my feelings for him,he also told me that he know how hard it must´ve been for me to hide my feelings from him.then he said he doesnt have time for relationship bc he has activites besides school (he plays guitar, he dances)and also he told me he firstly wants to develop more spiritually..(if that makes sense) bc we go to catholic church ,and then he hugged me saying that we should continue to be friends and then i deleted him from my friends on fb during summer holidays bc i was always checking if he is online.now is new school year and he found out i removed him from my friends on fb, and he texted me why i did that, and if he did something wrong he is sorry , i told him i did it bc it hurts me and that i dont want to be friends, and he said it´s ok, i thought it would hurt less, but it hurts me more ,now i ignore him bc i dont know how to act to him..he sent me friend request on fb but i didnt accept it yet..he was good friend to me before i told him about my feelings..please help me should i be his friend again or not? if yes what should i tell him? , and if so should i tell him why i suddenly accepted his friend request on fb,what should i tell him that what´s changed?
i just dont know if i should do it or not bc i dont know if he even cares about me?..now im ignoring him, i try not to look into his eyes directly :Ddd...why this happens all the time...that i like boy who doesnt like me ??
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Hello dear. YOu have written me before with this exact same question. I answered in full and you acknowledged it. So this sending of question may be a mistake??? I am pretty sure you also posted this again after my answer for the entire group to choose to answer or not. You may want to go back a ways to see what my answer was as I would otherwise have to answer you from scratch typing the whole thing again. I was out sick for about 2 weeks so this would be at least 2 if not more weeks ago, I'm guessing around 3 weeks?
If you never read it, I can understand, just go look for it now. Its happened to others too, missing one response out of many or forgetting to go back and check. If however you did read it, and are asking the same things again, I don't have anything to add and I wouldn't change what I said.
To be honest, I don't see where the guy did anything wrong. Its more of a common misunderstanding that teen girls get into regarding understanding guys and also understanding some basics about relationships and chemistry with people. That would take me a whole book to write to you to really help you.
Theres definitely some distorted thoughts adding to your emotional distress going on here and there is running from an issue, not facing it. Life doesn't always go as planned dear or as we wish. Now is the time to learn and this is a perfect opportunity for you and trust me, there will be many in life. I am in late 50s and trust me, the issues never stop coming at me. Its how I learn to handle them ever increasingly better, even if just a tiny bit. So do go look for my answer. If you can't find it, let me know but in short, theres no reason why you can't be friendly towards him, even friends. However since you have feelings for him, its best to keep him on the outer circle of friends, more like acquaintences, not close friends as it is just hurtful to try and stay close with someone who doesnt feel the same as you. ANd as to your last question, why does every boy you like not like you....that question would be called something like an "All or nothing statement" or 'out of proportion' by counselors or psychlogists of which I am neither but I do read enough and know people helped by such counseling. So what I would share in a book to you would answer that last question and you'd see that there is hope. Insteadf of writing that much, I try to refer gals to the books I have read that I feel may help, or even you tube video's or blogs and columns so I don't physically have to type every word already shared in a book.
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