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Always the third friend?
I thought by the time i graduated high school I would've escaped being the third friend and for once finally be someone's priority. If you don't know what a third friend is it's basically third wheeling two bestfriends, no matter how many times I've tried in all my group of friends I was always the third friend. So university comes around and I made two new friends from my schools Facebook page, none of us knew each other prior to the page but once we did we all became like a little trio, so me and let's say Amber used to talk every single day in the summer until we met and now I'm even lucky enough to receive a response from her, she said she's always busy with school which I believe her because she's in the sciences and plays on the variety team so I never see her around campus or talk to her online as much cause she doesn't respond and is too busy to hangout. Now the other friend lets called her Kayla is in the sciences too she's busy but not as busy as Amber but she's always studying so I never see her on campus either. With Kayla is have to always message her first or we're not talking, so far Kayla and Amber have hung out twice without inviting me, the first time I let it slide cause I wasn't at school but now today they're hanging out and it just hurts because ever since school started I've been trying to hangout with them and they would always blow me off and say they're busy. Amber never replies to my messages anymore either but I know she's not too busy for Kayla. So should I just drop them and try making new friends? Since apparently they're already bffs now, I feel like if I don't message them at all I won't hear from them at all.
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Been there, done that, got the T-shirt. Being the third wheel in any situation is the worst thing ever. The short answer is, yes. Drop them and make some new friends.
The long answer is, don't bother trying to message them again. If they've already blown you off twice in the past, what are the odds they won't do it again? Any "friend" that says that they're too busy to hang with you but are hanging with others is not the kind of friend you need. It's better to just have no friends than flakes as friends. Since you're in college, there should be plenty of opportunities for you to meet new people!
I hope this answer helps you in some way. :)
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Well believe it or not i too have been in a situation kind of similar to this..what i realized is that they dint care but me but what i did was think about them all the time and texting them asking what i did wrong and saying sorry..but then i just knew that this high school or this school age wont come again..they are having fun without me and i thought i should too move on..it was kind of hard at first to find some friends at first but then i realized that someone who doesn't want to accept me like who i am then MOVE ON.. i think you should do that too..don't lose the time when you can play around ..make up with guys..and lots of things but you will miss it when you cant do all this..i am sure you will do better without them..
And i hope this helped... I might not be a great adviser if you didn't find this helpful at all..sorry..
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