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WHAT SHOULD I DO? how to make him understand that im in love with him?
Hello.Im from Greece,Im 15 and a girl and the boy im in love with is 13.5..I have told my parents but my dad has a problem because he is younger than me and he thinks that in that age we can not make a relantioship..he likes him and stuff but its just that he is younger,what should i do?how to make him realize that he is so a good boy and mature for his age how to make him understand that im in love with him?
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I agree with all adviceman has said. If you want to be able to spend time with this boy, then there is a slight chance the following might help if the parents go for it. I had all girls and and such, a big issue on the minds of us parents was their not becoming pregnant, or raped, etc...
Parents of girls will just automatically be more protective of a girl. When my girls were entering middle school which covers the age of your boy, I told them they could have male friends but I asked them to choose carefully whether they really wanted to do the dating a boyfriend thing while in school. They observed the other girls and all my girls decided not to date cus the majority of the time, other girls were upset cus of constant breakups and their schoolwork and grades suffered.
I told my girls that if there was a guy they liked and he seemed to like them too as a classmate, then the next step was friendship. I said to invite the guy to our house. There were guys all right, but not a one took us up on the invite. However I know parents who've done it successfully including my sister and her daughter. The boy is invited over to spend time with the girl only when the parents are home and whatever room they are in, the door must remain open so its public, not private. If your parents were willing to do this for you and his parents willing to allow him to come to your home, thats a way to spend the time you want now with a guy.
Don't try to convince Dad that it is love you feel for this boy. As already told to you, tho very real at your age, you also have much mental maturing and growth left and will go thru many more relationships. Your Dad is at the other end of things from you, having once been your age, felt the same for some girl in school but never grew up to marry her. Adults can see the fine differences of young love and what it takes to have a deep lasting love and wonderful relationship with your partner that will stand the tests of time. What I do know scientifically is that the pre frontal cortex of teen brains is not complete or done growing as the rest of your body seems to be. Your body may have sexually developed but the brain doesnt reach full maturith until you get into your mid 20s so for you, that's 10 yrs away. While Dad may not know why he isn't looking at this as seriously as you are, its likely for that one thing, a brain that while working, is not able to see everything clearly yet, and had trouble making good decisions, even in relationships. Its much better for a parent to know any young man as your 'male' friend, not boyfriend which sets parents off, and as just your friend who is always over visiting. You say the boy is liked but the issue is his age. If it truly isn't an issue, what better way for the parents to discover he is intellectually at about the same place as you. See if they'll go for it. They still get to exercise the control and watchfulness, protecting you but also get to know any friend you bring home, better this way.
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What our father and I both know and you will find out as you experience it is; that teenage love affairs are always the love of your life. The reality is that teenage love affairs rarely if ever last more than a few months and in your case you have a multitude of strikes against you before you even start your romance.
Your boyfriend is 13.5 years old barely a teenager. He has yet to experience dating as you may have. Teenage boys and teenage girls have different definitions of love. A girls definition is more like what you will find in a dictionary. A boys definition fits the word LUST more than love.
As far as maturity goes you may be only a year and a half older than him but you are closer to four years older than him in maturity as girls mature faster than boys by about 2 years faster. So even if you were the same age your maturity level would be higher.
It is the level of maturity that makes teenage romances short lived. As it should be. This is the time for you to experience life. This is not the time to be tied down to one individual. I understand a girl's social need to have a steady boyfriend. It is really time to change that picture. Boys are allowed to play the field. Girls should be allowed to play the field as well without any stigma being attached. This is the 21st century with equality for men and women. Both boys and girls need to experience life.
Yes date this boy if you want but do not get that serious with him. Give yourself the opportunity to date others and experience the variety of different boys out their. The time for serious relationships comes in college or beyond.
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