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4 days ago I received a call from my ex at almost 4am. We had reconnected 3 weeks prior and talked on the phone and talked about being back together. I could tell he still had feelings for me. We were both in complicated situations at the time. He has a crazy girlfriend and was laid off and I was in a loveless relationship that ended. He said he wanted us to be together when his life was in order because he didn't want to drag me in to the craziness because I told him I didn't want any drama in my life. We hadn't talked since then. But a few days ago he called me almost at 4am which in all the years ive known him he's never done. I was asleep at the time so I couldn't pick up. The next day I texted him and the message wouldn't deliver as iMessage and instead turned green minutes later. He didn't respond which again has never happened. I called him today (4 days later) and it went straight to voicemail and the same thing happened when I tried to text him again where it wouldn't deliver then sent as text. I'm very concerned, did he block my number or has his phone been off? It would be very unlike him to block my number but i am very worried.
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When the human brain lacks information in a situation, the tendency is to make up all sorts of data to fill in the blanks and more often than not, we tend to fill in the blanks with the worst possible. You have no need to worry until you know everything.
Good for you in insisting for no drama in your life. Apparently, there is drama still in his or he'd be getting back with you.
Now if it makes you feel any better, heres a list of possibilities which may not be true at all. If it were me, i'd be knocking on his door when the gf isn't there or leaving messages with any of his male buddies, freinds or even family to call and let you know he's okay.
A call at 4 am could mean he was in a bad spot at the time and needed to hear your voice to be cheered up. But it could just as easily mean that he was offered a last minute job out of town for a short period of time and won't have time to chat and he only remembered just then or woke from a dream remembering. Perhaps he would be so busy he didn't need to bring the phone which would be a distraction and left it on purpose at home or he make have intended to take but forgot it. That's the only way he wouldn't be able to answer unless his phone died on him and he doesn't have the money to replace it right now.
I highly doubt he has blocked your number. He'd have to be one crazy dude not on medication to do something like get together and say he wants to get back together, then 3 weeks later when you don't answer a 4AM call, blocks you??? That is not the action of a sane person and I bet you know that. I suppose it would be easier tho knowing he blocked you and that he is okay. But it sounds like there isn't much you can do. Since he wants to get back with you, it's just a matter of time until whatever is preventing him from calling is no longer doing so and you will hear from him. It's easy to say to not worry in c ase something did really happen to him. If that was the case and it's already too late to help him, then your worry isn't going to change that fact. But in all the times my husband or I worried when we could reach the other it has never been something terrible that happened to either myself or hisself. It has always been problems with iphones, one out of energy or the other malfunctioning, and the service being crappy right at the moment we need it to work. Messages periodically don't go through. We seem to still get only 1 out of 10 mssgs instantly and the others show up the next day or day 1/2 and we have VERIZON. We also are not out in the boonies but a big city with lots of cell access so location in making calls doesn't count as an issue. I would try to leave mssgs with mutual people you both know and whom you trust to keep things quiet with the crazy lady, and see what happens. And you can always pray and ask his angels to watch over him and bring him safely back to you.
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