Question Posted Friday September 23 2016, 11:52 pm
Hi, we used to worked together but he left. He's single and I'm not. He's aware of that however apart from that I always knew he had a thing for me and fancied me. We always used to joke and whine each other in a flirty manner, but nothing more. Recently, me and my boyfriend have moved in together and he found out through my mate as he was asking me, how's she? Is she still with the same lad? But when my mate said, yeah they live together now, suddenly he seemed really sad and said,'well, maybe in another life, eh'?? As my mate could sense, he was really sad. OK guys, what did he actually mean by that??? Is he in love with me or something. We're in our late 20's. Guys point of view, please!!
Thank u all so much!
You now have the problem of figuring out just where you are in this little triangle. By writing to us I would say you are not to sure about things as you may have been when you agreed to move in with your boyfriend.
This would be understandable if you knew this guy before meeting your current boyfriend or before you and your boyfriend became a steady relationship. Though since this other guy never made any advances you went in the direction most comfortable.
If this is a proper description of where you feel your at and feel life may be better with the other guy then I suggest the following.
Call him make an appointment to meet him in a public place, a restaurant, Pub or park. Talk to him and find out just how he feels about you. Tell him your mate told you what he said and if you have feelings for him say so. Tell him you waited for him to say or do something and when it didn't happen you went with another.
Some guys are shy and have trouble making the first move, I'm one of them. My wife made the first move asking me to have drinks after work and that was 46 years ago. Those of us who are shy rarely look to see if the grass is greener someplace else. We are very loyal and loving definitely not a player. If this is what you are looking for in a guy don't miss the opportunity. [ adviceman49's advice column | Ask adviceman49 A Question ]
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