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Is he embarrassed by me?
......I met this guy a couple weeks ago and we really hit it of. Last weekend he came to hang out with me and a friend while my friend was babysitting. We had been talking nonstop all week. So when he came over it was great. An he ended up spending the night. He slept on the couch with me and we were cuddling and everything was so perfect. But then he kissed me and we were kissing but I madw him stop. He seemed vaguely disappointed but didn't argue with me at all. He is such a good guy but I think he got an erection more than once that night so I tried to put a little space etween us. Physically. All in all it was a great night. Until morning came and his friend showed up to get him. He couldn't get away from me fast enough. I'm used to being used but i expected more from him. He texted me almost immediately after they left and since then he keeps switching from "it was a mistake and shouldn't have happened" to "I wish we could be more than friends"
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You might ask exactly what he thinks was the mistake part. I see no issue with a guy wanting to kiss a girl and hey, they get erections just from thinking about a girl, so its plenty natural to happen from kissing.
He or you may see it as a mistake. As a parent with grown kids, I had babysitters in the past and rules that only the babysitter was allowed at my house /same goes if its the childs home the sitter came to. My reason is i wanted their full focus to be on the child. And I also didn't want people I didn't know or approve of before hand to come over while the babysitting was occuring.
So, my own feeling is that it is in bad taste for your friend to have allowed you over, worse for your male friend to show up, and even worse for him to be kissing you. In my case, a new babysitter ended up inviting multiple friends over to party while my child slept in crib. They ate everything in my fridge and left empty alcohol bottles all over, cigarette stubs and the smell of it and other trash. The manager noticed but cell phones didnt exist at the time so she couldn't call me.
Since the other advice giver answered from another angle, I wanted to make sure this was covered. You may have had permission by the parents to be there, and you may be good people but guess whos the first to be blamed if something does go wrong at the home of the babysat child, all the teens or adults who were present.
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I don't think he's embarrassed by you at all especially if he wants to be more than friends and texted that immediately to you. Disinterested people don't do that.
He is embarrassed about the kissing and intimacy and may feel he did something wrong that you made him stop. He probably knows you saw what occurred with his erections which are normal and not his fault. I would text him "What are you apologizing for?" and that "everything is fine." If bolder is your style tell him you would like to see if things develop into more than friends.
I would talk to him and explain that all of this is fine and that you know this stuff happens with guys and to relax. You should be fine as I sense this is all he's wound up about and perhaps didn't want the friend to know. It's not about you. He likes you. That's for sure.
Also, he's a different person than anyone you have met or been with before. Don't assume that people are going to use you. That's not fair to any potential suitor. The other thing is that you are in control and need to put breaks on with new people so it never goes there unless you know that kissing, cuddling etc. are for sure what you want at that time.
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