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Missing each other
My girlfriend and I are long distance. It's been nearly four months, and we recently just met. After a few weeks, our time of missing each other has gotten worse. We can't function, breakouts of random mood swings, and shut outs of people for days has changed us, and effected the way we live. We love each other, too much, and breaking up is never an option. We just need help on how to not kill ourselves over missing each other so much, thank you
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First things first: if you're having serious suicidal thoughts, even just smaller ones because your day isn't going the way you want it to be, seek help in someone like a therapist. That being said, if they are just little half-thoughts you can probably overcome these obstacles yourself just by trying to take your mind off of what is bothering you.
Seeing that breaking up isn't an option, try modifying your lifestyle a little to make room for both your girlfriend and distracting yourself from this tough time with something like a hobby, if you have something else you are interested in. This will, besides distracted you from some negative thoughts, help you relax/sleep better from being active. Getting a week or so of 9 hours or so of rest will help get your mind off of these negative thoughts.
Of course, simple hobbies will not always work. Try turning these negative things into ones you can think about and not explode. For example, instead of thinking about how this long-distance relationship will never work out, and how you'll never find someone like her as long as you live, try thinking about how lucky you are to have someone like her as your girlfriend, and to think about this simple fact: change is good. Hanging on to the same old routine will make your life uninteresting. Although these feelings feel like they will never go away, they will in time. And by that, I don't mean waking up one morning to find your girlfriend has moved back, I mean gradually trying to focus on some better things and continuing to live your life like a kind, happy person who loves his girlfriend and who is not afraid of change. Stay strong through this.
If these feelings of death thoughts/unpredicatable mood swings continue for a while, or get worse/never cease, reaching out a family member/therapist/doctor is never a bad idea. These events may be causing a mild form of depression, something that is easy to fix when it first occurs with some help. But this is not much to worry about, since over 90% of depression-affected people recover over time, and that 10% will eventually find joy in life, as will you. Joy is a wonderful thing.
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