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I dont belong
Okay this is a long one and i just need to let this out so if i get no help that's okay but.....
(12 female) Okay so my family is generally happy and we have some good times together but i am not happy, I am very young so its not like i can just leave and i never want to loose contact with my family. But I don't get along with my sister (I do want to say i have a short temper and i hate when my siblings call me out on something,and when i am mad i tend to whisper hurtful things under my breath or yell or even sometimes lay a hand on people just to let out my anger and i have tried to get better but i always go back... And i don't know what else to do.)anyways i don't get along with my sister and we tend to argue a lot. she is only 14. She thinks she can boss me around or tell me what to do because she is a year older than me. I am turning 13 soon. I purposely agitate her so i can get back at her for stuff, but it really makes me sad and mad when she threatens my life. She says stuff like "i'm going to stab you" or "i'm going to choke you" and "i'm going to kill you". I have told her to stop and she keeps doing it. I already feel me and my sisters relationship were going downhill when my sister moved in. Ever since then, they share secrets with each other but not with me, and they use codes for everything and they don't tell me anything and it makes me feel like i don't belong in their sister group. Whenever we are out in public, They try to push me away from their friends but their are no kids ,y age group that go to the places we go to. And me and my brother never get along like never. He does little stuff that pisses me off . so whenever he does something to me,and i retaliate, i am the only one who get in trouble.I always get yelled at and i always get punished. I dont know what to do. I like my home i just dont feel comfortable in my house i kinda feel like i am being attacked. That might be a little exaggerant, but i know i am annoying but i still feel like my respect in this house has shrivled like a grape turned raisin
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Let's see.....On the positive side, you seem beyond your years in being able to own up to your own behavior. There a people a lot older than you and even adults who are unable to acknowledge when they're doing things to provoke others or just "asking for trouble." I think you know that you do things to provoke your sister and ANY kind of hitting or violence is unacceptable and will only get you more of the same. That said, you don't mention a thing about your parents. Are either of them (or whomever you live with) people you can talk to privately. If they are reasonable people, you can tell them how you want to improve but that you are feeling threatened, put down and left out. That's a lot to deal with for someone your age. That's what parents are supposed to be for--to help you grow and help you work out conflicts just like this. That doesn't mean you have the kind of parents with whom you an do that. What you need is a mentor to sort of navigate this time in your life. Find someone wise and in whom you trust. Answers to these kinds of broad family issues can't all be given in a letter like this. Oh! And by the way, a sister who is threatening your life is totally out of bounds and needs to be addresses by an adult. So, I say again, where are your parents?
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