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Should I take viagra?
I'm a 21 year old male, in decent health who doesn't smoke or drink, but ever since I started having sex with my GF 3 months ago, I have trouble maintaining my erection. At first I could not get one at all, but after a few weeks I was having sex successfully and normally. But just recently, it started getting difficult again. I was able to do it once last weekend, but failed 3 other times after that.
During foreplay, I get an erection with no problem, but as soon as the underwear comes off, my erection starts to crawl back into its hole. It's extremely frustrating especially considering that it hasn't been a problem before.
If this info helps, I've been taking Horny Goat Weed supplements ever since I started with my GF 3-4 months ago. It has helped by improving my sexual mood, and sometimes I believe it helps physically too (getting my erection to pop up quick), but maintaining my erection is still a problem I feel.
My doctor just gave me 7 100mg Tablets of Viagra that he recommended I should break apart because I shouldn't need 100mg. Should I even use this? Does anyone have experience with my situation? I'm afraid if I take it, I will become dependent on it and need to take it every time I have sex, which I definitely don't want to do since Viagra costs so much. Does anyone have experience using Viagra and finishing a prescription? If so, did you feel like you needed it after you finished it?
Thanks for your help!
-Greg
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I think it has to do with nerves and being with a new partner and definitely something suppressed getting in the way and causing a problem that's root is not physical. As far as the doctor goes the prescription he gave is safe. However, if you have qualms about taking it don't.
Get an appointment with an urologist to see that a physical problem isn't the issue. Let your partner know you really want sex but something physical is happening that you will find remedy for and to be patient. I'm sure she wants best for you both.
One thing you may want to do is visit a condom shop if 18+ or adult novelty sore. They sell rings (they have an obscene name) that if you can get an erection on your own slip over the penis and trap the blood in causing an erection that will stay that way until end of sexual activity. Ask the clerk they'll help you. I know for some people that it solves issue without pills.
Worse comes to worse taking the pills according to what your doctor said to do may be fine for you as what he prescribed is safe or he wouldn't have.
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Stop the Horny Goat Weed supplements it is not going to help you and while Viagra may I don't believe this is the problem. While we are not doctors and cannot make a diagnosis what I can do is make a suggestion.
One question you say you can get and maintain an erection during foreplay. Can you get and maintain an erection through completion during masturbation while alone?
If the answer is yes then it is possible you have a deep seated psychological problem. No you're not crazy, something was said to you, most likely by you mom when you were very young that sex is for marriage only. Your fine until the underwear comes off and it is time for sex and that deep seated warning kicks in and your third leg heads for the hills.
Now I'm only guessing but I would bet my next paycheck I'm damn close to being right. My mom did something similar to me with dogs to keep me safe. I was well into my adult years before I was able to shake whatever it was she said to me and if I'm startled by a large dog it still kicks in.
Suggestion; as I said lay off the Horny Goat Weed supplements it’s not helping you. Ask your girlfriend to be patient with you. Make an appointment with another I would suggest seeing an ED specialist. It is my belief your current doctor treated a symptom not the cause. Don't be embarrassed in explaining exactly why and the what of the problem including if you can maintain and orgasm during masturbation. I can assure you your doctor has heard this and more.
Follow the doctors’ instructions.
If you do go to a psychologist find one who specializes in sex therapy. When talking with the psychologist understand what you say in therapy never leaves there it is totally confidential. The therapist is your new best friend that you can tell your deepest and darkest secrets to.
Until you see your doctor what I would suggest is just try being naked with your girlfriend without looking toward having sex. If it happens it happens but don't force it.
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