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What to do on a first date
Hi am a 13 year old female and i am in middle school.
Okay so basically here is a background. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for a month but it hasn't really been dating cause we have never went on a date. there is only 3 more weeks left in school and i want to make our relationship NOT one of those in school relationships that end at the end of the school year. so i invited him to watch a movie with me and a group of friends ( a group of 4-5) It would just be me and my friends tho ( hopefully no parents) But i feel like if it is just me and my friends, me and my boyfriend would be pressured into doing something and i wouldn't mind that bu i don't want him to feel pressured. I mean like holding hands and stuff would be fine, but what if he tries to kiss me or something like i really don't know what to do. But i don't even know if he is coming either
Please help me !!!!!!!!!!
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Solid advice answered based on the movie date with lots of friends around. But I bet you're wondering what to do with the rest of summer to keep seeing him. Are you allowed to go bike riding by yourself. If so, have him join you on a bike ride. You can stop somewhere to pick up a milkshake or iced drink for refreshment and talk before going on. At a movie, there isn't time to find out what things you have in common and often that isn't the kind of convo you have at school either. This is important, even if done on phone...dont text...just talk so you can hear his laughter or the questioning sound in his voice if he didnt understand what you said. Each of you take turns sharing about all your favorite everythings, from colors, and foods, to music and book genre, and favorite activities. Another couple of places the parents could drop you off at would be a bowling alley or roller skating rink. You can be there without the parents but with lots of other people around.
Lastly, I heard this idea from teens themselves who had parents who were okay with them having a male friend over but as long as she kept her bedroom door open. The thing with having a male friend over consistent enough, (like having girlfriends over) gives your parents a chance to get to know your boyfriend, although depending on their ideas of when you are allowed to date, you might refrain from calling each other bf/gf in front of them and just refer to him as your male friend. This way, other parents got to know how nice the guy was and were able to feel they could trust him around their daughter (if the boy is truly of good character) and they allowed the daughter to date earlier than otherwise with the particular guy. In a couple cases of really open minded parents, older teens were given the okay to have sex as long as they took contraceptives and used condoms. I am not saying that last part is the way to go for you, but it may lead to you also eventually being comfortable enough to hold hands and cuddle while at home watching a movie with parents around.
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First, find out if he is coming or not and then relax. He is probably as nervous as you are about the same exact things. If you have 4-5 friends with you he isn't likely to kiss you or show signs of affection because of awkwardness. I think you are safe there.
Nobody can make you do anything or him likewise that they do not want to do. If your friends are pressuring you or apt to than they aren't being friends and you need to tell them off if need be and same with him. I doubt they would do this but you can tell them before they come along that you're not doing anything and don't want the pressure but they can attend.
If he tries something you aren't ready for ask him to stop and tell him that you aren't ready yet and feel embarrassed with friends and want to do these things in private.
I doubt you will have a problem as everyone will be focused on the actual movie itself and not much else. They may even disperse afterwards.
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