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My dad doesn't talk to me
Everyday my dad gets home from work and I try to talk to him about things but he's always short with me. He'll just say "yeah" or he'll burp loudly and obnoxiously for no reason and then sings sexual shit all the time talking about assholes and sucky sucky stuff. I laugh but at the same time it bothers me because he's 52 and still doing this. I tell him to stop and act civilized but he doesn't listen.
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Is there a Mom in the picture? Talk to her. If no Mom and you are an adult yourself, you may want to think about finding any way possible to stop living with him. I know its likely financial reasons, but finding others who need to get out of parents home and all of you renting an apt. or house together is an option or renting a bedroom in someones home, there are ads out there for that.
If you are a teen, don't attempt to talk to him or change him, at this point he's unlikely to change. Just try to spend most your time in your own space, wear headphones and listen to music you like when he is singing his bawdy pub style songs. You laugh cus you're uncomfortable with this but he may take that as a sign you're okay with it. So then at same time telling him to stop is sending mixed signals or he simples believes that whatever you say now is just your way of teasing him about it non seriously. So either try again to have his full attention, like perhaps not at home where he can be distracted by all sorts of stuff, but out at the local coffee shop. If he won't go, then try to talk to him at home and let him know your laughter isn't approval, that his behaviour makes you very uncomfortable and you want to see if the two of you can work out something together so both of you are happy. Its his home, he pays the rent or mortgage and if this is his way to unwind after work, he's not likely to change, just for his child.
I understand the need for a female to have a father figure in her life. If your Dad is not being a good one, not available to have convo's with, then perhaps there is a male relative older and mature who can fill the spot for need of conversation and social interaction? A grandfather, uncle? If at best, only by phone calls, and they are willing, then its better than nothing. People have unofficially adopted people other than blood, as family because they both fill a need for each other. So maybe there is a friends Dad you felt kinda close to growing up and it wouldn't hurt to explain what you told us and how you thought of him as a substitute father image to meet your needs, and ask if he'd like to accept the honor.
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