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Do I still love him?
There's this boy in my class that I used to date, I broke up with him, but I think I might still love him. Its been a few months, so I thought he would pass, but he didn't. I want to date him, but I don't at the same time, and I dont know what to think anymore. I thought about talking to him about it, but I can't talk to people, somebody had to help me break up with him, because I had a panic attack when I was trying to tell him. It kind of seems selfisj to be that I want to date him, but I don't at the same time. Should I try to forget about him, or something else? I'm just so confused!
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I do not know why you broke up and that would be another subject...whether he is good for you or not and whether you are good for him or not.
I will just assume that you broke up for good reasons and do not want at all to get back together. If this is the case, I want you to know its not weird but very common to have feelings and emotions with him. Your feeling love when the relationship is over and you do not under any circumstance want to get back together is caused often by something called a cord of attachment.
A cord of attachment is formed when you become interested in another person. You have some energetic investment or interest in the relationship, whether that’s positive or negative. The relationships in which cords of attachment form tend to have energy behind them. This energy is easily formed when you have feelings while in the relationship and so, the feeling of love can remain and its also hard to forget thinking about someone you once used to be with if this 'invisible' cord is still there. I know it may sound like something from fairy tales, and not make sense, but what have you to lose by closing your eyes and imagining a cord attached to you with the other end attached to him. If you really want to get over him and there isn't anything redeemable about the relationship, then imagine cutting that cord with a pair of scissors knowing that when you honestly do that, wanting to really cut the connection, what you imagine with the mind will happen in reality...thats how powerful the imagination is.
If this isn't about getting over him but being sure that it was a healthy relationship and how to get back into it, well hon, thats another very specific question you'd have to ask of us. Good luck.
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Sounds like you have alot of thinking to do and NOT just with your feelings. Try to remember that people who operate themselves based on their feelings are often times unstable, emotional people who have it harder in life because they are constantly thinking about everything in a "how does this make me FEEL?" sort of way instead of thinking practically, and logically to find a solution to whatever it is they are currently having a difficult time with.
Think about the real reasons WHY your thinking the things you are about him. Are they based on anything valid? perhaps a bad experience in the past? When you enter into a relationship, you run the risk of having to hurt someones feelings once in a while, thats just apart of life and theres no way around it so its probably better that you train yourself to get past this NOW or else life is going to be hard for you when it doesnt need to be.
Think it through before you do anything, because it sounds like you really do still like him because if you didnt why would you concern yourself with his feelings? why would you go and have a panic attack? maybe its because thats NOT really what you want and theres something else going on here your not mentioning.
good luck ; )
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