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i am so confused lol
It was our last day of school today so I thought it would be a great idea to tell my old crush that I liked him so I approached him and said "Hey I liked you." but what I didn't expect was his reply, "Same". wtf After that when we bumped into each other he seemed like he was abashed or some sht and after like a few minutes, when we were told to go home i was going in a different direction than he was but he tried to go in the same direction as I'm going like tf hahah but like what confuses me is that he didn't really show that he liked me but I kinda noticed something but he did some things that contradict with the romantic gestures and stuff. Damn this was harder to explain than I though. XD
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I agree totally with Rahzie. So just in case you don't have a way to connect with him and have a convo...consider her comments important enough to realize you need a bit more guidance and learning of how to interact with a person you like and how to broach the subject in the first place with another person. If a guy from school walked up to you and blurted out, "I have loved you throughout our years together at school." And says nothing else but walks off, would'nt that also be confusing. Even two people dating who know each other. When feelings change from a casual liking of each other to one or both falling in love with the other, how do you tell them without scaring them off if they aren't there yet for example.
The best way I have heard in researching the internet is to tell the person, I am developing feelings for you, as if it were in process or just starting as this phrasing doesnt lay as much pressure on the other to feel the same at that moment so they are more likely to be relaxed at your revelation than scared to run away. Of course this is for someone you already are dating.
For someone who is a crush but you've never spoken, you won't know if they are even the same person you imagine and dream about until you get to spend some time one on one together. So you need to learn how to approach a guy, what are the best opening lines to use to s tart a conversation and if you both seem to enjoy the conversation, let him know you did and would like to talk again and ask for his phone number. I recommend having most conversation first face to face to hear tone of voice, see facial expressions and body language, or on phone call to get at least tone of voice. You miss all that and cant have a continuous flowing conversation easily in text which would be last choice. Then don't state it would be nice to go biking or hiking or whatever together, ask if he wants to and then ask him to grab his calendar and lets put down a date. It can be as simple as having him over for an afternoon of listening to your favorite cd's and another time you go to listen to his. Start searching through the internet for dating help. Its so easy, just think of the short phrase that encapsulates what you want to find, like "How to start a convo with a crush" and you will get many hits coming up. I did that phrase and saw plenty. Use the internet more for help like this. If its too hard to see on your iphone, then get a library card and use the library computer to research this stuff. No excuse for fumbling up next time...you simply need to start learning how to interact when its with someone you like.
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So, your plan wasn't good enough.
Saying "I liked you." is useless! What were you trying to achieve? You have to have a follow-up like "I want to talk/stay in touch/whatever." or "I want to go to a movie with you."
You dropped it. So he dropped it. He literally followed your lead here. He's probably sitting around doing the same bullshit you are doing right now where he thinks you aren't serious because your actions after you blurted that out, contradicted what you had said!
You can't just blurt it out and expect it to take off. You want something to come of this? Try again, and don't walk off until you've had an actual conversation about it.
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