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shy boy
How can I stop being shy about taking off my shirt in front of girls?
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You are likely feeling the same pressure girls do about their looks and whether anyone will still find you cute or attractive with the shirt off. Here's an article about it called "Body Image pressure Increasingly affects Boys". Please read it all as it may well explain what you are feeling.
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In the article, they don't go into boys worries in puberty of the size of their genitals but that is also included. Come to think of it, adult males can be still concerned over that. The problem is they have seen the size of men in porn movies or heard about it and the guys are usually 10 or more inches along. Keep in mind what the article says about men with the chiseled bodies of superheros or action figure toys and in reality, only 1 to 2% of males actually have that body type. It is very rare and I would assume the 2% also includes the rarity of size in genitals.
The reality is that your body is going to continue to change and grow if you are young, middle school or HS. In fact, many college age men are not yet the complete adult male figure they will be for the rest of their life as certain subtle changes in their looks are still occuring. Case in hand, my husband had his mature shape in his twenties but it wasnt until into his early 30s that he began to grow body hair, more than the little he had for shaving and what hairs were on his chest, He grew hair excessively over his entire body and it grows long, an inch in some places, but up to 3 1/2 inches long on the chest. A furry man. What he looks like now does not resemble the male he was at 22 or 12.
Let me share something else about change and maturing in the human body that may help you. The human brain has a part that lags behind in becoming fully mature and thus workable in helping a person with judgement, decisions, and being able to see into the future, possible repercussions from any thing they decide to do, etc. This prefrontal cortex isn't done growing say scientists, until the mid 20s. So for most its 25, 26 and for others it takes even longer to start making good decisions, more like hitting 30.
This fact in young people, kids and teens means that you can not expect your peers to understand what I am telling you. They won't just have the common sense and common conclusions an intelligent person would have from observing the environment and other people closely to know that ones genes do decide for you what body type you will have, including size of genitals and chest. I am in my fifties and can tell you that personally I find the super muscles of a body builder with a 6 pack to look unnatural and actually ugly to me. I admire much more the men with leaner muscles. Their muscles are toned as they work out but they don't add bulk. I have had the discussion with many females, adults of course but they all say the same thing. So if the media is pushing a certain image of what women find sexy in a male and real women are saying the opposite, then something must obviously be wrong.
It may not even be the media image of a male you are going after but you have a fear of being teased or laughed at when you take your shirt off, and that is why I mentioned the immaturity of the brain in all young people. Their bodies mature long before the brain does which can often lead to dangerous conclusions if not deadly ones.
The one thing missing in almost all teens cus I remember myself at that time, is self confidence. We all want to be liked and accepted and have a fear that we won't be. On top of it all I suffereed severa social anxiety as a kid and teen until my last yr HS when I decided I was so sick and tired of being so scared and fearful of other and what others may think of me that I prayed to God and got an answer as to what to do and that excercise which I followed thru on, cured me of social anxiety. I had some self confidence now but still not enough for when it came to feeling attractive, and secure and happy with my looks when I was a divorced adult later on. I did something called borrowing self confidence. I'd read about it in a magazine article. Although they went about it differently than I did, I am stronger at visualization and came up with a method that worked for me. Before I knew it, I was getting the kind of response where instead of just looks, men and woman would come up to me and comment on my eyes, the one thing I had focused on in this experiment. I felt my own self confidence for the first time and it has grown since. If you'd like me to share more on the self confidence trick, I'd be glad to tell you, just ask.
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