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opportunities to talk to my crush?
Okay so I'm a girl in Grade 12. I've had a crush on the same guy (let's call him K) since the middle of my first semester of high school. It is now my last semester of high school, and I haven't done anything about my crush on K. This is also the first semester in all of high school that I don't have a single class with K.
Any time K talks to me, it basically makes my day. However, most of those talks happened in classes we had together. When I don't talk to him for like a week, I start to feel sad, like I need to talk to him again. It's not like K is the only thing that will make me happy, it's just that when I think about him, I am much happier if I have talked to him recently. What I'm asking for here is ways to get more conversations with him and maybe extend our relationship past short conversations in class....
The following information is just some background/situational stuff that might be helpful...
I only know one class that he has.
I am in the school choir with him (I might possibly have time to talk to him before/after practice, but definitely not during...)
I have a spare period, and during that period K has a class that often involves sitting in the hallway talking in groups. I often walk around the hallway loop of our school during that period, and sometimes he sees me and smiles. Once or twice he has said hi or started a conversation.
My friends don’t know about my crush, but they do know K, and we are all sort of casual acquaintances with him
I am sort of friends with some of the people he hangs around with
I don’t have a phone or Facebook or any social media for casual electronic contact
I’m really shy, and I tend to get super awkward around K
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You are the age I was when I finally got sick and tired of being so shy and what I did cured me and I became more outgoing and found I could easily talk to strangers let alone classmates I knew. So I changed midway through my last year of High school.
Its up to you Hon. It all depends on how much you want to change in general and not only to be able to talk to your crush but to improve your life in general. You are soon to become 18 and legally an adult. No matter whether going off to college or starting to work, you can use the skills of being able to converse and communicate well with all sorts of people, not take things seriously, not let negative scenerios playing out in your mind stop you from even trying, etc etc.....
We all get a bit nervous at first when the person we'd like to talk to is so important to us that it goes well, and they respond positively.
If this guy already likes talking to you, thats a good start. Guys don't bother with chatting with girls that they aren't interested in at all. So theres at least a friend interest or a romantic one and you won't find out if you can not ask if he'd like to hang out together sometime and thens your chance to tell him there's only the home phone to get a hold of you by, just like when I was young and that didnt prevent anyone from getting a hold of me. Trade numbers and of course you'd have to talk cus there'd be no texting and hon, thats a plus for possible relationships cus more of communication is made up of the sound of the voice, facial expressions and body language. The spoken words is the smallest part and most kids today have trouble with talking to anyone because due to relying only on texting, they have never learned or lost that skill if they had it. So you are ahead of others in that are, just needing to get past your shyness. I wish you well.
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