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Part 2
Hello thanks for answering my question about the whole controlling relationship and everything I wanted to add a lil bit more information I don't think he is planing on leaving his baby mother she not his wife but she keeps bringing up more kids and watching videos of it in front of me like I know she trying to make me feel some type of way because I haven't had a kid with him but he told me he wanted to have kids and he been joking about it and recently I found out if I was pregnant that he was gone let me keep it at first he kept saying no but now its like he want me to be equal to his baby mother like if I had a job and gave him half everything like she do he a prolly stay with me but idk its hard trying to see what he want like I be wanting to ask him but I be scared and every time we get into it he always bring her up n he not scared to show that he love me around her
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Let me show you the vast difference between this guy and lets say guys like my 2nd husband.
I did wise up and later in life found a gem of a man, someone who really knew how to care for a woman. When I decided to move in with him and his teen daughter, I asked about finances and what portion of my money I should put into the household expenses.
He told me he is the kind of man who believes in taking care of the woman he loves. Thanked me for asking but told me to only concentrate on paying for upkeep of my own car, paying off credit cards and saving up my money.
This guy wants women to produce kids for him and then go to work and give him half off what they make??? My ex was also more concerned about what piddly wages I could earn compared to him. Men still earn way more than women will for jobs with the same skills and degrees unless talking about minimum wage jobs. I know the economy is tight but what the heck is this guy contributing to run a household? If you've watched Maury or other tv shows where some guy has babies with three women, but is not giving equal time to her or her kid nor really caring for them, just listening to those guys talking, I could pick up by their choice of words that they were lazy and wanted to play King of the land. They wanted women to support them in exchange for use of his cock. It just boils down to that. In scientific reality, thats really all women need men for, to procreate. In ancient societies, the whole village would raise the children so if a Dad was dead or chose to be a loser type, then the kids wree taken care of by uncles, grandparents and other young men not married to the mother of the kids.
I have also heard that it is easy to provide the seed to become the biological Father, but it isn't easy to be a Dad. Being a Dad takes lots of hard work and a commitment to really be there for a kid and pass on teaching by good example of how to grow up to be a stable young man or woman.
Do you really want a son of yours to have this man as an example of what a man should be like? If you do, then get pregnant by him and enjoy that life. Most women I know, would not only never go for it but not enjoy it either. But some souls are on this planet to learn some valuable lessons that they might not if not opting for a bad scenerio like this. I wouldn't want to counsel you to choose something better when you are meant to learn some life lessons the hard way. So which ever way you go, the thing is to learn, either from the examples and stories and advice of others, or by going through the school of hard knocks by living it yourself. While one is a way better path than the other dear, both have the same end result for you. The only soul you have to wonder about is any children you are dragging through this experience. I still feel bad for not leaving my ex while the girls were little as I now see the damage it did to each of them now that they are young adults. Their ability to pick out a good mate is very warped in each of my 3 daughters and so the bad situation continues for me to relive thru observing my daughters now, even tho I left my ex and wised up myself. I really can't think of anything else I can share with you that could help.
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