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My fantasies are hurting me?
I've never really told anybody about this, but, it's getting out of hand and I don't know what to do. I have a fantasy world inside of my head that I want to be my actual life. I have multiple characters that I made up. I have different family and friends inside my own world that I sometimes love more than my real world ones. When the people in my world are happy, I'm happy, when they are sad, I'm sad. They are so real to me that sometimes, I just get lost inside my head and actually think I'm living there. I love this world so much that I want to spend all my time there, and when I finally realize that I can't, I'll cry or just get really angry. I think this is getting out of hand, I've had this world since I was around 5. I'm 13 now. I really don't want to talk about this to my family, they just won't understand.
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I think its ok to have something in your mind that can distract you in a good way from some of the obstacles we face daily.
Imagining is fun and can definitely help you achieve your dreams so dont feel bad about that!
I am going to go out on a limb here..
you mentioned that you feel love for this characters and you also mentioned that they are sometimes happy or sad.
I wonder if you are communicating with your spirit guides?
try to pay more attention to your interaction with this world. Our minds are very powerful so you will be able to figure out what is made up and what is real.
If i am wrong , i still believe that taking the time to study when you see them in your head or feel them and all the thoughts and your interactions will help you figure things out and you will be more comfortable with whats happening and you will even have the power to end it if need be.
Regardless dont feel bad. Everything happens for a reason and now that you are 13 things will start to make more sense.
Good luck to you xx
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The thing about our minds is that a mind is very capable of creating intricate fantasy worlds and characters. Almost always, the imagininary one and what real life is like are vastly different and there is no way of making our fantasies real. Some darker fantasies are fine in the mind but would be a bad thing if happening in real life.
The fact we don't always like the life we have or find it depressing is why so many people escape into books into fantasy worlds that others have created. If you can create such detailed fantasies that make them come alive and feel real to you, then you have a talent that not everyone has. YOu could write books describing those characters and lives and you can be one of those characters. It can be good therapy for you and others may be able to enjoy it as well. I have written books, non published yet but all the research that went into some of them to make the facts accurate makes me feel like I have actually lived those adventures. I have a time travel story of a man from the 1600's who accidentally appears in our time. The gal he meets and marries goes with him to his home country on vacation and while there, they travel back to his time. It is very personal and has my type of humor in it, has the scenes play out the way I find it to be romantic or scary. I've ready parts aloud to others, surprised to hear them laugh at a funny part. Even long after finishing a book, the characters are like real people to me and that is the mark of a good writer with a good imagination.
At 13, you're at a tough age and things may level out for you later. Life can be very rough and just not fun or interesting for you at your age, so I see no harm to use your imagination to escape from reality for bits of time, as long as you can still take care of your responsibilities and things in real life like keeping up grades, learning how to have friendships in real life, something hard to do in real life at that age but it is possible. If you decide to run from everything in real life that is hard or frustrating, you'll never learn how to handle lifes tough stuff. Theres a saying that when the going gets tough, the tough get going. That means there are also those who don't want to learn how to be tough to handle lifes disapppointments so instead of getting going and tackling the obstacle, they run and hide from it or avoid it, and that dear, is not living life. Thats being alive but not living life. I know this is more encouragement than practical things telling you what to do. Its really simple to me tho, start writing and see if that helps connect you to reality with sharing your stories with others who can then escape reality for a while, people without the vivid imagination you have. Talk to a teacher about this and see if they think writing would be a good thing and follow any writing advice the teacher has. Often there are programs linked with certain school where published writers or people who work in the publishing world will work with recommended students to help groom them and their books for possible publishing to be the next young writer out there to make it.
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