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Confused / Conflicted w/Feelings for a Guy.
Is it too late to talk to my crush? I'm 17, and we're both juniors. Let's just call him M.T. We are both shy (him being more painfully shy than me). At school in the music room is where we see each other most often. It is obvious the way he looks at me each time I enter the room that he is interested in me. I liked him a lot in the beginning, but then my infatuation with him died down a bit. This was due to him being too timid to talk to me. My parents encourage me to be the old fashioned girl and let him talk to me first. This situation has been going on for two or three months. Am wondering if he's worth my time and how to go about this.
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What worked for your parents generation doesn't work for all people and certainly not in this generation.
I'll also say things aren't any different today than when I was a teen as far as lack of self confidence and worry about being liked and accepted.
Often this kind of worry holds us back from taking chances and just facing our fears. If your parents are okay with you dating at this age, then make the first move. Its easier to ask first than wait for him. Guys like to be complimented, same as gals, but they also like to be needed or helpful in some way...as simple as "can you help me open this jar?" So if you have something he could help you with, start the conversation with that as main focus. Or,Let him know you like his humor and friendliness and since he's such a fun person, you'd like to get together with him, maybe set a time to hang out at a pizza place, or heck, just share and play some of your favorite music and bands from your collection while you just chill together. I am sure he's just waiting for you to make the first move.
Once you've both been talking, you can let him know you have old fashioned parents who feel the girl should let the guy make the first move and in ways he did with the teasing and such but it wasn't to talk to or ask to spend time with. Ask if he wouldn't mind helping you with the parents, by pretending that he talked to you first. Its such a little thing, makes your parents happy, cus they may be concerned there is something wrong if a guy won't talk to a girl first...but its just that they've forgotten how it was like at that age and that not every gal and guy are the same and some are just not as bold.
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