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How do you get a boy to notice you?
I really like this boy in my class. He is super sweet and I have known him for a long time. I have liked him for as long as I can remember, and he used t like me too. Last year, I traveled, and did not go to the school that we both go to. When I was gone, he liked me, but now that I am back, I am not so sure. He likes another girl, and we are complete opposites! He isn't in any of my classes (except 1) and knows I like him. How do I get him to finally like me again? Him and this other girl are all anyone is talking about, but I just feel awkward whenever anyone brings it up. Is there ever a chance with him?
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I could guess here that by mentioning 'liking' someone that it means going together as a couple. To me, liking someone can mean many things. I like my job, I like my friends, I like Mexican food but when I've ever dated, I never called it liking someone. I assume you are saying that he used to date you, now he is dating someone else.
If so, then a good chance why he may not approach you just as a friend is to not step on any toes and offend his current girlfriend or make her angry.
I understand questioning why he can be so into someone so different from you. If you allow yourself to think negative thoughts about this and wonder how you are lacking, you'll only be miserable. What you need to know is that this is part of the dating process. Dating forever isn't just an option to not getting married. Dating is a process of spending more time with a person you are attracted to and like some general things about but want to discover more about the person to see if both of you still like each other enough to want to spend more time together. So dating can end in commitment or in deciding to split and look elsewhere. Its not a matter of a person lacking something that someone else has as much as it is about just finding the person who is best for you. This can take many years and many dating partners for you to accomplish learning just what it is you like best in a partner. Always strive to go for something better with the next person instead of settling for less.
Now, if by liking, you meant that he liked you but never dated you and he likes her but has not asked her to be his girlfriend, then hon, he's free game. And if so, how to get him noticing you...well its not like he hasn't noticed you in the past. If this time around, now that you are back, you want to date him, and provided he still likes you in that way, yes, its possible for a person to like two people at the same time until they finally make a decision for one.
So what would make the difference? Lots of young people are always worried about others liking them, being accepted, so the people who draw the most attention and friends are the ones who are self confident or just act self confident until found out otherwise. As a female, I can tell you that self confidence works at any age. After a divorce, when I went on a dating site to find my next boyfriend or if lucky, next husband, I didn't chase after the guys, I didn't act desperate and try to be the lady they wanted. I switched the tables on them by letting them know what it was I was looking for in a guy and providing a list of criteria they had to meet to even bother writing to me. I had so many guys coming after me, it made my head spin. I have my husband now but because I am still a confident woman, I still get guys staring at me and a few bold ones trying to get me to agree to be in a relationship with them.
If you want to know how to gain that self confidence, write me and I'll tell you. At the very least, if your friend doesn't come back to you, it wasnt meant to be but with self confidence, you'll be attracting the attention of some other guys.
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Awww well ive had this happen actually with good guy friends but it was the other way around.
Firstly try to remember that guys really are simple creatures, they may not know at this young age what exactly they want in a female girlfriend and it certainly doesnt mean that shes replaced you if he liked you first! ; )
Find ways and opportunities to talk to him. Hit him up, ask him hows hes doing, tell him you know its been a while and you just wanted to say hi. Things like that.
Find out where he goes after school if he lives in the same city and go there! talk to his friends and hang out with them.
good luck
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