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if a boy asks you out
How to react if a boy asks you out and you don't know them
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Have your parents set dating rules in place such as no dating until age ??. That plays a part in whether to accept or not. Generally, girls are so excited to be asked out and have some positive attention from a guy that they accept no matter what. But there are a few cautions to keep in mind.
Looks aren't everything. He can be cute or hot looking on the outside but have a rotten personality on the inside. When it is a strange person you don't know, there is no way to know that. Even if you did know him somewhat, that still isn't enough to know his character which is what dating is for, to get a chance to know the person better to decide what you like and don't like about him or guys in general and start deciding what type of guy you will date in the future and possibly marry in the far future.
The best way I know to get to know someone is to hang out as friends. Jumping that step and moving on to going out as a romantic couple is jumping the gun. Most guys when young are thinking more with their hormones than their brains and a true friendship is last on their minds when it should be first.
If you at least feel attracted to his looks, the next step would be to find out whether he is simply asking you to hang out on a friends basis to Get a Chance to know each other better. Or is he wanting to ask you out with dating and romance in mind, to become a couple. If you don't really care, then take your chances and date a stranger. However keep in mind that abuse is on the rise among teenagers and a high percent of girls have boyfriends who abuse them verbally if not physically. That is something you don't want and theres no way to tell ahead of time with your limited life experience the warning signs if there are any to just avoid him. I married at 20 and the guy ended up being abusive and I couldn't tell ahead of time. Now being much older, I realize there were warning signs but I was to young to be able to notice them.
So it is much wiser to start out as friends.
So my recommendation is to thank him for asking you out but that you'd prefer to get to know him first as friends and then see where that leads.
If he isn't interested in doing so, then his interest in you wasn't anything more than skin deep or sexually. Yes, there still are good guys out there who will become friends first and not pressure you for s ex so you dont have to cave in to that to have a boyfriend. Decide what you want and keep to your standards, not settling for less.
Good luck.
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