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I want to break up with my Clingy Girlfriend
I m from india.. And 20 years old in IT field of engineering..I was in a relationship fr nearly 14 months but i m tired of my relationship becauae my gf constantly picks fights and i have to make it up everytime. I am tired and want to break up..i tried but she has got way too paranoid and hystetical..totally insane..i do not know how to deal with this..please advice needed desperately
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I don't blame you for wanting to break up. Any person who can't be a whole person on their own, like a clingy insecure one, is not a good choice for a relationship. If she truly is like this, then the best thing you can do is to tell her in person that you have given this relationship a lot of time to see if maybe your feelings would change, but in 14 months, you feel that you still don't feel like you both have the right chemistry to make a long term relationship work.
You do not bring up and tell her that you are dumping her because of the fighting or that she's clingy, hysterical, drama queen, etc. People with these issues are not going to want to hear about them because if they were ready to acknowledge them, they'd be making personal choices to change. All you would get is a fight if you give the real reasons spelled out.
Now even if you just mention no chemistry, based on what shes like, she may still go into hysterics, or promise to do whatever you say, or cry or yell. Do not lose your determination and give in and agree to stay with her. It won't improve and you'll just be mad at yourself. Do not answer her calls or texting and just cut off communication. If she decided to threaten you with commiting suicide if you dont stay with her, inform her family of that threat so they can keep wa tch over her but if shes as bad as you say, she may use that threat and not really mean it. If she does get that upset and commits suicide, it is not your fault but something internally in her that was off balance to begin with and any major upsetting event in life can set such a person off to killing their self. It isnt all that hard to break up. Whats hard is how you deal with it in your heart and your mind.
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