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Hi my name is Lisa and I have a question to be answered I have little girl and her dad and I is just now getting to be cool again and I told him a year ago that I feel like it's time for us to have another little one I wanted two or more by the time I was 30 and I told me not now it would be to much for him and we had sex a year ago and he asked me When we was having sex do I want he to nut in me can someone let me in your opinion what do you think he means by that ?
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You need to separate the fact he wants to have unprotected sex with you, from the question of whether or not he wants a another baby.
Because he may well be an idiot, who wants unprotected sex because he's horny, but just forgets about the whole baby part of that. Or, he may have changed his mind and is ready to conceive another.
You'll need to speak to him again, more clearly, about your desire to have another child.
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Sounds like your over analyzing here a little. If it was in the heat of the moment during the sex then he may just have been trying to tell you what you wanted to hear, we dont really know.
If he told you when you discussed it that having another child would be too expensive then i think you need to respect that. If he financially cant do it and knows that it would directly effect the quality of live you have now (meaning more bills, less fun things because you wont have enough money etc) then thats not the fair thing to do.
If you have the chance to plan you child coming into this world BEFORE you do it, and not just have an accident and thats what he wants to avoid then i think hes doing the smart thing here and maybe you should try to do the same. Life never turns out how we think it will and even famous people who have tons of money dont have the perfect life because theres some things money cant buy, like good relationships with family or kids.
If you want to know what he meant by it then your probably just going to have to ask him and then bring up the topic again if planning more children is what you want, but the most important thing here is that your both on the same page about it because bringing a child into a world or a situation they had no control over isnt fair to them, or the father because now he'll be stressed out knowing that he has to work harder or more to support that child.
good luck
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