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So there's this boy.... Updated
Since I first wrote the 'So there's this boy...' advice pieces, the liking for the boy has only gotten stronger. I like him soooooo much. Every time I look a him it is like my heart is breaking. How do I know if he likes me. He has given me some reasons as to think this, but how can I be sure? We text fairly often, whenever we are both online, and he is constantly looking at me at school. I am quite close with his best friend, and he seems to think that he likes me or will like me if he knows that I like him. Is there a chance with him? If so, how do I know?
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I like to play "switch places" to help you see the answer yourself. Hopefully this will help you. Think of some guy other than yours(I'll call him Josh)Would you be constantly looking at Josh and texting often with him if you weren't attracted to him and had no feelings or crush on him? Why would you waste your time? Just to be nice to some lonely guy cus you feel sorry for him? And would you want to risk him thinking you actually like him and feel some romantic feelings towards him when in truth he's kinda repulsive to you? Nope, I don't think you or any other person would do that. Guys are the same and for the same reasons would not do anything to encourage a girl they don't like. So now you have your obvious answer, he does like you. As to whether his attraction to you is as strong as yours, it's not going to be obvious until you start spending regular time hanging out with him.
When we are young and rather inexperienced cus we're just starting thinking of dating with no prior experience in relationships, we tend to scare ourselves into not venturing forth and trying due to fear of making some serious mistakes that turn the other people off or for fear of rejection. What you need to think of is that your guy has just as much shyness and possibly fear of even trying to talk to you and ask to date or hang out as you would be feeling. Therefore, he will be very understanding of you being nervous as you try to speak to him too. Wouldn't you forgive him stuttering or even losing his train of thought when he tries to talk to you? So its a matter of who's braver first. Guys often do not ever take the first step until they are HS graduates or older due to these fears. So if you don't want to wait so long, best thing would be for you to let him know how you feel. I would advise though leaving out words like "Love" and "strong feelings" strong is often equated with love. the reason is, that a guy can be so scared off right at the start when a girl professes feeling something stronger than he feels. He knows he is interested but he needs time to get to know more about you, get used to you to see if he still feels the same later and if he does, then slowly the stronger feelings for the girl will replace the attraction and general feelings of liking.
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From what I have read it sounds like he could be interested too but too shy to say anything. Maybe you should make the first move and let him know how you feel, that's the only way to know for sure.
It may be scary but you won't know until you tell him, hopefully he likes you back. If not it's his loss and you can find someone who does feel the same about you.
Sometimes you've got to take a risk :).
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