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I really like my classmate but he is not single :/
i´m a girl, 3rd year in high school, I really like my classmate..but he has a gf,,,his girlfriend lives in a different city so they have longe distance relationship..even though he has a gf I want to tell him how i feel but my twin brother (we are in same class) is his best friend..so if i told my crush i like him he would probably told my brother..i dont know why but my crush always says hi to girls in my class even to ugly ones and when i ask something my brother he says to me something that he would never say to any girl in class..is he just picking me up?..could he like me even he isnt single ?..should i tell him how i feel?...please help me
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You say he is kind and pays attention to every female in the class by greeting them. And you want to know if it means he is trying to pick you up? How about you. Do you say Hi to every guy in class just to be friendly, even the ugly ones. Or imagine yourself doing this and ask yourself if it means that you are trying to pick up each one of those guys you say Hi to. I think You'll realize now that the answer is No, he's not trying to get you as a girlfriend and this was more just wishful thinking on your part.
Lets go over how relationships start and progress to help you decide what to do and when.
Either just one or two people notice each other and feel very interested at the surface level of what they see in the other and that makes them want to hang around with the other to get to knnow them better. This stage of getting to know the other person better is to see if this is a person you want to be long term in relationship with. This is not a commitment to become an official couple. You can consider yourself dating partner or having made the minor commitment to be boyfriend and girlfriend while dating. At the point you have learned enough to know whether you want to stay with the person long term or not, you either break up or go for a commitment of a sort. At your age of course, this isnt the ultimate commitment of marriage yet. But how you learn to evaluate a persons character will be the same and keep getting better hopefully with each person you date. At the time, only the one seems special and you can't imagine there;ll be anyone else ever but we dont decide which icecream flavor is our favorite by only trying one flavor. So in relationships, we learn a little more with each one. There is no reason why you can not date him at 16 unless your parents have some rules for you to meet. It is normal to begin at this age with dating to begin to learn and of course the learning experience is so much more fun if its someone you're initially attracted to.
If I were you, I'd ask my twin bro first what he thinks of his friend in general as a person. And let him know you are asking because you think you might be interested in him, but you're not sure yet. This is a safe way to start talking about it and get the best info you can from someone who knows the guy well. YOur brother can't tell him you like him cus you didn't say that. YOu've just observed him as he interacts with your brother and think you might like him which is actually the truth. It is attraction you feel but the real liking of a person you wouldn't be able to tell until you get a chance to hang out together with him. Make this clear to your brother. While it may feel odd to him to have a sister possibly become romantic with his best friend, theres nothing really wrong with that and he's likely to not encourage you to date a guy who is a real jerk, even though of course it's still your choice. This guy sounds much like my husband. Females are like cats, loving to be stroked or more to the point, their emotional needs recognized and stroked. So the cashier at the grocery is told He really likes her necklace, he speaks politely to and compliments women all the time, greeting them in a formal way of years gone by like "Thank you my Lady". And it is interesting as his wife to watch them all glow and smile. It is very rare that I see a woman look nervously at me and wonder if he's hitting on her in front of me. I have seen that response and have to stifle giggles. He is sincere and most woman realize he is being nice and friendly and not hitting on them. I guess some of this ability comes with age and experience, something you will begin to feel with your female intuition. So I would confide in your brother and ask if he doesnt mind the idea of you hanging out with his friend and seeing if the two of you get along too. Would it bother him if something happened like the two of you starting to date. Then give him some time to think about it and get used to the idea you put in his mind, about a week. After that, bring it up to him that you are going to talk to his friend. If he doesnt have any cautions or warning for you as to what to look out for, rumors he's heard, then go ahead and let the guy know you've have enough time to watch him in class and interacting with your brother and you're becoming very interested in him and would like to spend some time hanging out with him. If you have anything in particular that you want to mention that you have observed him do that you like, nows a good time to mention it. Like, "I like how you treat all the females in class in a friendly and respectful manner. From hearing you with my brother, I have to say I also like your sense of humor. Stuff like that helps to let him know you really are interested. And we want to hang out around people who appreciate us and compliment us.
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