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Does he like me? How can I tell?
I'm a 14 y/o female and there's this boy in school and I've talked to him a few times in person (once for an entire lunch hour :$) and we text pretty often (even tho he's not that great at texting) and whenever I walk through the school hallways I tend to look down and avoid eye contact with other people but lately when I walk through the halls my eyes often meet his, him looking at me first. he seems to get nervous around me now and he used to not get so nervous around me and he doesn't have a flirty personality in general so I just can't tell if he likes me or not. what do you think? could he like me? he's kinda shy so should I just tell him I like him or would that make things more awkward?
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People are calm around those that they aren't trying to impress or get the attention of but tend to be nervous around those that really matter, the ones they have an interest in. They can be found staring or looking at often, trying to have eye contact and if we really don't like someone, we don't agree to trade cell numbers, we only are willing to trade numbers with those we have an interest in hearing from. Lets say he didnt want to say no to taking your number. If he really didn't want to communicate, he wouldn't be texting you or talking to you in school. If the two of you could sit and talk a whole hour without getting bored or running out of things to say, I would say he is definitely interested and attracted but this is the stage at which you both need to spend more time together, hang out to get to know each other more to decide if you really really still like the person enough to perhaps be boyfriend and girlfriend. Shy guys won't do more than he is doing. He won't be the one to make the first move as far as asking to sit with you more often and talk long times together. You need to make the move. Boys can fear rejection even if a girl is friendly towards him, mainly because at this age range, no one really has much experience being able to pick up the signs that the other person is open to becoming friends and later maybe even more. Even if you don't end up dating or hanging out for long and moving on to someone else later, this is a good opportunity to begin learning how to understand the opposite sex a little better and you do that by becoming friends and talking alot and asking lots of questions. I understand how young people love texting but if you want a way better chance at friendship or more, then I suggest that half of the time, you talk face to face and not rely as much on texting. You both need to get familiar with each other as to when each other is serious, teasing, and other feelings and tone of voice, facial expressions and body language are all missing in texting. A phone call is next best cus you still have tone of voice and constant answers back and forth without having to wait for text answers.
What you can say instead of "I like you" which can make a guy even more nervous, is to say things that encourage him to become friends first, by saying, "You know that time we talked a lot at lunch time, I really enjoyed that very much. You are a very interesting person to talk to, you have a good sense of humor and I'd like to do that more often. Would you like to start hanging out together more?" If I like or I love is mentioned, a persons mind is apt to click into the mode of thinking, "Uh oh, this girl wants to be my girlfriend and I don't know what I am supposed to do, how to act, this is scary. " And I can say I remember that age, the person feels pressure, can be nervous or so terrified that they clam up and don't talk much at all giving the impression they aren't interested which isn't true. So wait to tell him you really like him until you've have a couple weeks of talking lots daily and spending time together in person as it will seem more natural and have given him time to lose his some shyness and fear around you. A good way at this age to spend time together and going to visit at each others houses when the parents are home with parents permission. I told my girls to offer this to the guys interested in them but not one was brave enough to come hang out at our house. Good luck dear.
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