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Trouble or not?
SO i like this boy and he seems to like me too. At times anyways. We have been through alot together, he is my best friend. We dont talk in person like ever and if we do its a little weird. He is in a relationship and says he happy. I know we shouldnt but we have sexual conversations and he talks to me about his relationship. We planned on having sex but i decided agianst it. He doesnt know what he wants and its really bothersome. His gf pretty much hates me in my opinion. But she keeps telling me she didnt. We dont talk that much anymore. But i believe he still likes me. Side Chick? He says even if he was single he wouldnt date me because if he hurt me that would be the end, because i would hate him and he couldnt live with out me...I dont know anymore.
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It isn't uncommon for two people of opposite sex who are just friends to develop romantic interest in time. This is actually a very good situation. The healthiest long term relationships have a foundation of both being best of friends and both having a healthy romantic relationship/sex.
Young people either get stuck in the friend zone or have some silly belief that because the other is their best friend that a couple relationship won't work out if they are also attracted sexually.
His belief that he'd rather not be with you cus he's afraid he'll hurt you is ridiculous. If he wants to live his life traps by his fears, he will live a most unsatisfactory life. His gf likely wants to also be not just romantic interest but considered his best friend also and so see's you as a threat.
Until he has come to his senses and totally broke up with her and is now available, I advice to not have sex with him, so that was a good decision on your parts. No one wants to be the chick on the side cus women really want commitment from a man and that is not commitment, that is the man running the show and deciding who gets a piece of him or not. He may need lots of time to grow up and mature. Unfortunately from some things I've watched on youtube, a couple of guys running an advice show on dating and relationships confessed they didn't wise up until into their 30s and hurt many wonderful girls along the way that they can see now would have made wonderful girlfriends and later, wives but they weren't ready at the time. You may have to wait quite some time for him to wise up and even then, there's no guarantee that the two of you become a couple because you may have grown and matured way beyond what he can give you that he no longer qualifies as Mr. Right for you and you find someone way better. Just focus on being friends for now, explore dating casually with other guys cus nows the time to gain experience in knowing what you do and don't like in how a guys acts or treats females and that can take many many relationships of learning by experience. Dont wait around for him to decide he has changed his mind.
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