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what should i do
the beginning is for about 4 years back
about 3 months into living in our new place a friend of our named carolyn moved in with her daughter due to breaking up with her boyfriend of 9 years since high school, My mom found that she had cancer in her breast but it was the kind that spidered and everyone was worried then my grandma found out she had lung cancer and after hearing that news my grandma tried chemo but couldn't do it and passed away before christmas, my mom’s drinking got worse and it seemed like almost every night she was hurting herself from drinking and partying by almost cutting off her finger in a car door and cutting herself on purpose. This happened till one night carolyn called her mom over to help her bring her to rehab, i was home at the time when they trying to get her to go, she was threatening to cut herself and more, they finally did get her to go and Carolyn stayed with me and took me to school over the two months she was gone. we also visited 2-3 times.
when my mom came back, she got her surgery and was doing much better, About a month later, Carolyn's Ex didn't want to keep the farm they had so carolyn said she would take it back, and after talking to people around are area we got a house trailer for free and we just had to pay for it being towed, carolyn and my mom made a deal to move the house trailer onto her property. K so carolyn runs a small dog rescue. We moved there with our 3 dogs, and we were doing great for awhile we got a st bernard cross puppy to work with my mom’s fear of st bernard’s, Carolyn got a new boyfriend named Randy, he was about 16 years older than her (i think about 46), he used to have these days where he’s a complete jerk and days where he’s bagging to come back, and when they had their fights and she told him to leave he wouldn't go anyway or he'd try to fight her so she broke up with him about 1 ½ years later and he wouldn't leave so she called the cops and he got away before the cops came the first few times the one day she grabbed the keys from her truck he kept taking and drove her other car over to the neighbors and they finally got him and he went to jail for 8 months.
Not long after Carolyn breaking up with Randy my mom got more news from the doctor saying she has cervical cancer and about a month after she went in and got her cervix removed, and about the last year of living on carolyn’s property the county was trying to get us to move because are house trailer was to close to the road and wasn’t set properly. We tried to get it set properly in time but couldn't and the county won and we had to find a place to live in three month, we had to give up are animals which was really hard for me because they were one of the things i loved the most…
We couldn't find a place in our budget within three months so a friend of mine offered for us to stay at her house while they went on vacation and we did find a place in a one bedroom basement suite in a small town close to my school i've always gone too.
I used to go to carolyn’s almost every weekend, we became great friends even though she was older than me by 15 years. Months after living in the basement suite we were eventually allowed to have pets and i missed my old pets but they all have loving homes so carolyn had a batch of puppies at her house and she gave me one, Carolyn’s daughter called him Moe before so i kept the name.
K carolyn’s does drink. We go places all the time, she lets me drive around on the countryside, and we talk to each other like if my mom’s bugging me or somethings on my mind, i trust her with these things. Anyways after me and my mom moved into the basement suite, a few weeks later she got more new from the doctor saying has skin cancer, she's had surgeries to stop it from increasing size but it slowly comes back.
About 6 months later, I went over to carolyn's for the weekend like normally do but i do with my dog now, and that night we went over to christene's (a friend of my mom and carolyn) to make salsa and Carolyn was undesivie to go on a date just as friends though because her friend ryan wanted her to go to a fancy dinner party ( if you knew carolyn she doesn't like fancy dinner parties, she's more of a hippie) with him so he wasn't alone with his co workers and their wifes. So he finally got her to go, when she got back that night around ten she was wasted, and they partied and drank more with graham and other people until about 1 and then i fell asleep, when i fell asleep all the dogs were in the house and when i woke up, none of the dogs were in the house, carolyn and graham were gone also so i thought she took all the dogs home with her but when christine's uncle came for wood, he found moe in the grass by the trees and i had to identify him…. I still hadn't heard from carolyn yet, when i finally seen her she was still drunk but i got a bunch of the story from her on what happen last night.
Apparently carolyn and graham left christine's place because they had nowhere to sleep, so graham drove her down to jolenes to get smokes but they were all sleeping except jolenes dad that seen them whipping around the donut driveway so then they left jolenes place and went back roading behind there place, and apparently graham ended up in the ditch and was trying to get out, carolyn left the truck and seen her crazy ex randy there for the rescue for some reason then…. then graham finally got out and didn't know where carolyn went and went whipping around looking for her till he went to her house and fell asleep there waiting, he says he doesn't remember hitting the dog at all.
So october 18th 2015 i found him and carolyn, i was crying lots of course and i told my mom and she was in the city at the time but she said she was coming out but i ended up pulling myself together and remembered that someone was coming over to carolyn's for a puppy and i was down at jolene's at the time so i reminded carolyn and we rushed over to her house and we found a puppy a home but i was told i had to go to jolenes because my mom was there and she wanted me there, i didn't really wanna go but i did.
so about two weeks later, I was a jolenes with my mom and carolyn got paid and wanted to take me out to dinner so she stopped by jolenes and my mom said no and carolyn was really upset about this and so was i. Then when Carolyn left, my mom told me why and the reason was because she drinks too much, so i told carolyn why and we were both hurt.
About a week after moe passed my mom stopped taking all her pills.
So after Carolyn heard that she stopped drinking a week after and a week after she stopped i tried to ask if her and i can go to the movies she said no again, she didn't really give a reason she just said in time you can, and that we could hang out in town but she can't take you anywhere. so she came to a dance thing with me during the week in town and she wanted to go out to dinner in town so i asked my mom she said no because she's done with waiting and that carolyn has to talk to her so i told carolyn and she got mad/upset and then she tried to go on wednesday and she said no maybe tomorrow so tomorrow morning my mom texted her saying not today and carolyn responded back with your hurting cora the most, then my mom just said goodbye and when i came home from school ,my mom just snapped saying your not talking or seeing her anymore, and went on saying you and her are talking about me behind her back, if she wants to talk you she has to talk to me first, i know you and her have been talking about me because your acting different. Yeah i've told carolyn things she could do to try and get me back and what my mom has told about what she has done wrong and of course carolyn's upset and it's not always gonna be nice, i think the worst was when my mom called her an alcoholic and she just replied with bitch. i don't know even what to think of this or do because i do really miss hanging out with her but my mom's stuck on this hate thing right now. when my mom said she couldn't talk or see me anymore she texted me saying you old enough to move out im sure and i could provide you a place and food and i won't tell you that you can't talk to people for no reason i just replied you know i can't i care about my mom even if she's being irrational. sorry about not indenting all my convos and paragraphing where it's needed.
what are your thoughts on this?
What do you think i should do?
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That's a lot of info to go through. All I picked up from it is that there is a lot of drama in your life and it sounds like you might be getting tired of it. I had to learn the hard way myself in a bad life situation I lived with 30 yrs, that the only way to be rid of the drama and the hurt is to walk away from it. It may not be easy, especially financially and considering practicality but by the age of Carolyn, I am assuming that you are somewhere near her age or at least 18. If you aren't, wait until you are 18 and then plan out your own life with or without the people who trouble you or hurt you. You can not make or force another person to change for the better. God gave each of us free wills. I used to pray for God to do miracles changing peoples wills and one day He told me he gave each of us a free will and He won't interfere to force a person or turn them into a robot by taking away their free choice, whether they being doing good or not. So if you can't change others to change your situation, that leaves you with only making decisions that affect yourself and change in yourself. Again, its not easy without some guidance like perhaps from a professional counselor or life coach but it is still the only real avenue open to you. So if you don't like the drama, start making plans and checking out all the possibilities available to you to get out on your own, get a good job or if schooling is involved, finish school and then get a job. I don't know your situation exactly and won't be spelling out each step for you that needs be done. This you need to research on your own depending on whats most important to you, and what you want, your goals hopes and dreams. I wish you the best.
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