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teen boys crying
Is it okay for teen boys to cry? How serious does something have to be for a guy to cry? Is it okay for guys to cry in public(like at school) or only at home/alone?
That's a lot of questions at once, sorry, just want to know what people think....
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I would say that if things are serious that (and this is with ALL people not just guys) to go ahead and allow themselves to feel things in that moment.
But often times its easier for people to cry, feel things, grieve a loss, and show outwardly these emotions alone or at home at least in a room with people they know that will care about what they are going thru.
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There's too much heard in society that males should be strong and not ever cry. I think men came up with that idea, wanting to appear stronger for women. But women, though wanting a man who is strong, also want one who is in touch with his feelings and can cry if the situation is one that humans are prompted to react that way.
Teens in general are so worried about being accepted and liked that they worry about every little bit, how they look, sound, act, etc even males. Media has young males already worried they won't be attractive enough to get a girl. Then they want to be sensitive with their emotions for a girl but at the same time come across different for their male buds, afraid of teasing or losing face with their male friends. I suppose it all boils down to whether you have the self confidence to be who you are and not worry about or take things personally, or feel you dont measure up, or be able to handle teasing without getting upset. If male buddies can tease you about hearing you cried, then your tears are the pay off and the fun of it for them. But if you don't react, eventually they will stop. I personally don't recall guys crying at school, too much teen peer pressure. In public or at gatherings, it depends. Usually the male crying I have witnessed is in response to a sad emotional movie, a moving piece of music, in response to discovering they inadvertantly did something to make their lady cry, hurt or sad, or at the loss/death of family or other loved ones/friends.
If the questions are about crying often, and you stress out easily so you cry often like each day or a couple days a week, then I'd have to say, its not normal if comparing yourself to behavior you see of others. But I wouldn't use that to decide if its okay. For example, you may be an empath and not know it yet. I have a daughter who is one. Some learn to develop this talent as they grow up. But empaths have a 6th sense as far as being able to pick up the moods of others and can too easily be affected by others emotions, instead of being able to just sense them, remain in control of your own emotions and then reach out with encouraging words or a hug to others.
It could be an issue of being extremely socially anxious, shy, having a great fear of other people in general their reaction to you or treatment of you. I was extremely shy as a female when a child and teen. I do remember this issue causing me to be more sensitive and want to cry easily. Of course, most the time, I found ways to hold off until I was alone in a bathroom stall or some such thing where no one could see. Once I gained self confidence, I no longer cried due to that issue. As an adult, the only times I cry is emotional books I am reading, movies, or if the stress of a situation I am going through affects me to want to cry. If its related to stress, I find that if I change my thoughts about what is stressing me, recognize something as too much for me to handle, I will make changes in my life as soon as is possible to avoid the major things that stress me and the minor things, I embrace to grow stronger in character. These are a few of my thoughts on the subject. If you have more questions or a specific situation you want to share about and get advice, let me know.
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