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I think my manager is trying to break up my boyfriend and I.
For a quick reference, my boyfriend and I both work in Walmart, he is a support manager on the general merchandise side and I work as a cashier but I sometimes cover service desk. My manager is the front end manager and his manager is the general manager of basically everything that isn't food.
My issue is with my manager and how I'm fairly certain she has a vendetta against me and is trying to get my boyfriend and I broken up. She has this weird obsession with calling him "bae" and she does it to his face and in front of me all the time.
The other day, there was a product recall and she said right next to me "well, I guess I have to call bae up here to help me with that olive oil recall.....aw cute, he can be the popeye to my olive oil." So, I got annoyed but since she's my superior I couldn't get angry at her, so I turned to her and jokingly said, "hey, he's my bae" and she said "oh no, not until Christmas, he's all my bae-he is Santa and the store told me that I should be Mrs. Clause so he is mine."
I spent the night at my boyfriend's place the other day and he told me that when she went back to do the product recall with him, she brought it up to him that she keeps calling him bae in front of me and he told her that I was texting him about it, getting annoyed and she said "well, she doesn't have to worry-it's not like anyone wants you anyway" so I don't know what her deal is.
She also, will not for the life of her, let me advance. I've been asked numerous times by my supervisor if I could take the exam to become a customer service supervisor which would basically be the position of me watching over the other cashiers if they need help-a promotion with a pretty nice pay raise. So, I took the exam and passed, my supervisor talked to my manager about it and she said no, I can't do it because I'm dating my boyfriend and that would technically make him my manager and that would be a conflict of interest even though my boyfriend's job does not entail him to cover front end at all.
They since hired another girl as the customer service supervisor. So, I asked if I could be at the service desk full time, I've been a cashier for two years, I need a change. My supervisor said she would love to have me over there because we do not have enough people over there so she trained me and everything and when we asked if I could move over there permanently, my manager still said no.
But she did ask if I wanted to move back to the cash office which would entail my hours to be five in the morning til two in the afternoon every single day, with no pay raise at all, when my boyfriend works twelve to eleven everyday. So I told her no for that, obviously, if I do not get a pay raise, there's no incentive at all for me to ever want to go in to work at five in the morning and basically lose every chance I would ever get to see my boyfriend.
So, I guess after all of that venting, I'm just reaching out to someone to see what I can do about this. I think she is acting very unprofessionally and while I know for a fact that I won't be working at Walmart for the rest of my life, I'm trying to advance while I'm able and make my resume look as good as I can so I can get out as soon as I graduate. I'm just not sure what I can do to stop this nonsense so my work life can feel way less stressful.
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It sounds to me as if this woman has a thing for your boyfriend and has a secret agenda. You need to stand your ground, her being your manager or not. It is not appropriate or professional on her part to be doing the things she's doing. Her actions could actually be grounds for getting fired. Tell her supervisor and/or make it clear to her that she is completely out of line and she needs to keep her nose out of your personal life and keep it strictly business. I hope this advice has helped you. Good luck!
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I think that you should tell your boyfriend that you and him should work in a other place but if that doesn't work out I got nothing because this is a complicated problem so I just say you talk it out because in middle school I had a problem like this so try to be nicer to her (even though she acts like a bitch) and try to get much closer to your boyfriend and call him cute names in front of her and hang out with him more often
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hotcutie12
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The proper way to deal with this is to file an official complaint with the Human Recourses department. Unless Wal-Mart has a written policy against fraternization between employees, which I doubt they do. You manager is harassing you and impeding you from promoting possibly for sexual reasons. By sexual reasons she may have designs on your boyfriend.
Calling him by a pet name even if it is just in front of you is unprofessional and a form of sexual harassment. Human Recourses must take this complaint seriously and speak with this manager and the other supervisors to verify your story. IF verified they must take corrective action to make you whole. In other words to either give you the higher salary in your present position or promote you to the position you were held back from. If they do not you can then go to your local office of the EEOC and file a complaint.
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