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My close friend asked me if i would kiss her?
Okay so yeah. My close friend asked me if i would kiss her! We are both bi females in high school.. but have talked about feelings in the past and agreed that it would be best to stay friends. But, she recently messaged me out of the blue asking if I would kiss her. I was reluctant to say that I would, but I had to be honest. I tried asking her about the randomness/abruptness of the question//why the thought even came to mind and she avoided the questions. She said she would make out with me and I thought, okay cool! But then remembered that we wanted to stay friends, but doing this could potentially change that. I just want to know why she suddenly thought this would be a good idea haha and also----do I kiss her?
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Close friends, best friends, should be the people you can trust 100%, you know that there is nothing you can say that would make them think bad of you. So if she can not share her thought process of how she came up with this sudden request after you I'd say that somethings up, and what ever it is, she doesn't feel comfortable with you sharing it. That tells me that either she hasn't known you long enough to build trust in you or that there's a chance that even as close as you are and as long as you've known each other, she just doesn't trust you at all and if thats the reason, then you may want to think twice about going beyond the friendship level with her. I say that because when even hetero friends go to the next step and involve sex in any form, even kissing and foreplay, that takes a certain amount of trust and emotions can get attached and run high or go awry if one partner gets offended somehow or feels hurt whether you've said or done anything to warrant it or not. It could potentially become a big drama if you aren't sure about her whys and whether she fully trusts you. Sex is a situation where one should be able to trust their partner. Sex requires great communication too for any couple to be a good experience for both...so if she isn't forthcoming with info now, she may not be then either.
On the other hand, you did say your first reaction was "Okay, cool!" So it sounds like you are open to the idea, even though you both agreed not to previously. It is okay to change one's mind but changing ones mind is not like flicking a light switch, instant light, instant darkness. There is a thought process involved that brings a person to changing their mind. If it is all that important to you to know why, then hold out and dont agree until she speaks up. Otherwise, if you dont' care, then go ahead and make out. However I beleive you do care to some extent about her thoughts and the abrupt change or you wouldn't have written us otherwise.
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