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I think my boyfriends intern wants him
When I walked in to bring my boyfriend lunch, I see this girl sitting at a desk. She gave me the up and down look as I walked in and I told her I'm here to see my boyfriend. She doesn't close the door as soon I enter his office, she lingers and stares at us as we embrace and kiss..staring as if to confirm I was his gf... Just so bizarre.
I spent his lunch hour with him and this girl came in his office FIVE TIMES. In the span of an hour!!! Am I tripping or is that strange??? Every time she came in it was for some stupid irrelevant thing that could have been discussed any other time. The way she was smiling and looking at him turned me OFF. Women can tell when other women are trying to be subtle and cute in a way a man can't, my bf was so oblivious.
After the last time she came in, I asked my bf, does she always come through your office like this? And he was like yea, she comes through pretty often. And I was like, is this standard for interns? And he said no, but she's the type that likes to have constant contact and he appreciates her enthusiasm. When he said that I said she seems to have a little crush on you...
He laughed and said "she is a little flirty at times but I brush it off." I said how? And he said she's told him things like she loves older men. WHO TELLS THAT TO YOUR BOSS THAT IS AN OLDER MAN? And when would there ever be a time to even tell info like that? I didn't want to come off as insecure so I didn't ask for details. But isn't that super inappropriate? Am I being dramatic?
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If this was happening in reverse, a male intern pestering his older female boss this way, it would be considered harassment and might even fall under sexual harassment if the guy said I am interested in Cougars, older women. It is not normal behavior for a workplace.
She sounds to me like she is interested in him. Either that or she is so unhappily single and cant find and keep a guy that she doesnt like any other female having a guy even if she doesnt want the guy and just works at trying to ruin the guys relationship with his lady.
She is pulling out all the stops to try to make you jealous. If you trust him and he is so into you that no other female could ever turn his head, then ignore it. Otherwise if you don't trust him, he may not be the right guy for you. Or talk to him and let him know as I said, if it was in reverse, it would be considered harassment and the fact he doesnt stop her from doing it implies it is okay with him.
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Yes. It's inappropriate behavior.
And yes, you may also be being a bit dramatic.
Chill out. This girl isn't a threat to you, and if you treat her like one you'll only embarrass yourself. She's a fool. You'd be better off pointing out to your boyfriend that he if allows this to continue unchecked, he's hurting this young woman's future employment potential as well as damaging his own professional reputation. She needs to learn that flirting is not the correct way to behave at the office, and that her comments were unwise and unwelcome in that situation. She also needs to be more independent. Desiring constant contact isn't enthusiasm, it's dependency and a lack of confidence.
And he needs to not look like an horndog who can be made into a fool by a pretty young thing's compliments. There are many people who will think less of him if they see him accepting inappropriate attentions from an intern.
Don't be insecure, but be honest with your boyfriend. He's allowing her to develop workplace habits that will harm her in the long run with her male and female colleagues. If you saw it in the hour you were there, then it's very likely that every woman and many of the men he works with have also seen it. He needs to stop being flattered and start being a caring, responsible boss, and give her good boundaries and good advice.
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