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I have a boyfriend but I still have feelings for my ex?
Basically, i was with my ex for 2 years and 7 months. I was happy, sort of... For the first year it was fine, we argued a lot but who doesn't right? After the first year, he began cheating on me and being really horrible. But silly me kept going back too him. I never felt like i could have sex with him because he always cheated and it was as if that's all he wanted from me. We finally broke up proper because he slept with my best friend behind my back, and that was far too much for me too handle. It took me 8 month till i was able too move on too someone else. I really trusted this guy, he made me feel wanted. It felt amazing too have someone be faithful too me and only have eyes for me. We was only together for about 5 months, but within those 5 months i ended up losing my virginity too him, which my ex wasn't very happy about. Although, after i lost my virginity too him he become verbally and physically abusive and he made me feel so small. It took me 2 months but I finally left him. About 6 months after, I met another guy. He is my current boyfriend. We have been together for 6 months, I actually have faith that this relationship is going too last we have only had 1 or 2 arguments and he won't argue back with me because he respects me too much. I ended up having sex with him, i took his virginity. It was so hard for me too have sex with him though, as i have major trust issues. But if anything it made are relationship better and stronger after we had sex. I can actually truthfully say i am head over heals in love with him. A few weeks ago, my ex boyfriend of 2 years and 7 months rang me. He has just got out of jail, and he was explaining how sorry he was and how he wish he could go back in time and fix his mistakes because i was the best thing he ever lost. I met up with him too explain how i am happy with someone else, and it hurt me too say that. The thing is i genuinely think he may have changed, before he was very selfish and would go too such lengths too get what he wants. But this time he said "If you're happy stay happy, all i want too do it see you happy even if it hurts me. Why would you take a chance on someone whose let you down in the past, when you have everything you've ever wanted right now. But if you love me take a chance on love." It felt so weird hearing him say something like that. As i was walking away he said "Do i not get a friendly hug?" At first i said no. But then i thought why not? So i gave him a hug and within those few seconds all my feelings came rushing back... I don't know what too do. My feelings are stronger for my boyfriend but i feel so bad that i am even thinking about anyone else in that way when i have the most perfect boyfriend ever who would do anything for me and would never hurt me. Someone please give me some advice.. Am I a bad person for thinking about him in that way?
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I'm not speaking for all guys but someone who cheats and didnt do much for you in the past is not someone you want to be with now. When a guy says he's changed - especially one like him - I don't think you should believe him. Also, I don't think you're a bad person, I just think you need a long and hard think about what you felt when you were with him and what you have now.
If the ex truly has changed and loves you, surely he can wait. If the relationship with your current boyfriend doesn't last as long as you'd hoped, then if you think it's right, go back. Don't be afraid to make him wait. People like him can wait as long as you want them to because he cheated on you. He chose to make those 'mistakes'.
Personally, I don't think you should have anymore to do with him but in the end, it is all your choice. I wish you luck, girl ;)
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